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    It's crazy the difference between dating older and younger women

    I am helping my good buddy out by letting him stay at my house - he is divorced and trying to get up on his feet. His ex wife absolutely crippled him financially so he is dead ass broke - I told him he can stay with me for a while and not pay me any rent until he doing a little better. My buddy is also chubby and balding terribly (should shave his head, I dunno why he is holding on to the tiny bit of hair he has left).

    So anyways, today he shows me a picture of a woman he is going out with tonight and she is a 39 year old global finance director at Mcdonalds - likely making about 300-500K a year. She is good looking - very good looking for her age actually, in nice shape, masters degree in business, very intelligent, looks about 5 years younger than her real age, super nice person (my buddy said she is awesome)

    Meanwhile, if I approach a 25 year old at a bar who makes 30K a year and lives at home with her parents and who is just decent for her age appearance wise and she will inevitably turn her nose up at me and wants nothing to do with me every single time. Isn't this just crazy?? I can't get a girl who is 6 levels below my league to show interest in me meanwhile my buddy can get a girl a 100 levels above his league to go out with him. For reference sake, I'm 29, decent looking (people rate me around a 7-8/10), fitness model physique, make close to 200K a year, have my own house, super nice car, etc...

    When I approach women sometimes who end up being 35-40 (on accident because I think they are my age), they always love me also. My success rate with the 35-40 year olds is like 90% - my success rate with 23-28 year olds is negative 0%

    Is it just a f*cked up generation nowadays where the average 24 year old girl has an unbelievably blown up ego and thinks she deserves a 10 when she is a 4 herself? Dating as a mid to late 20s straight man has to be the absolute worst in terms of any demographic out there
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    It sounds like it is because people tell you , that you are 7-8/10. You should be a solid 10 in your head. Build up confidence, read some psychology books, workout, refresh your wardrobe, bend reality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snkv [Register to see the link]
    It sounds like it is because people tell you , that you are 7-8/10. You should be a solid 10 in your head. Build up confidence, read some psychology books, workout, refresh your wardrobe, bend reality.
    I dress better than any straight man you will ever find
    I look like a fitness model in the body
    I try to improve confidence everyday- that's a life long journey for everyone

    doesn't seem to matter at all with women my age

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    He's never met her and she may not know he's broke and crashing at a friends house. Some older women who have their kids,careers etc, settled may think it's fun to have a boy-toy after a nasty divorce.

    The mid-late 20 somethings are not looking for flash and the club pick-up scene. They may prefer looking for husband/father material on dating apps or other venues. The early 20 something/college girls may be the ones in clubs looking for a good time.
    Quote Originally Posted by awakenings33 [Register to see the link]
    my buddy can get a girl a 100 levels above his league to go out with him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wiseman2 [Register to see the link]
    He's never met her and she may not know he's broke and crashing at a friends house. Some older women who have their kids,careers etc, settled may think it's fun to have a boy-toy after a nasty divorce.

    The mid-late 20 somethings are not looking for flash and the club pick-up scene. They may prefer looking for husband/father material on dating apps or other venues. The early 20 something/college girls may be the ones in clubs looking for a good time.

    What part of the "flash" am I not satisfying?

    I'm rich, very handsome, in great shape, dress extremely nice, have a great social circle and lifestyle

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    As a girl in my 20s I would be uninterested in someone who thinks so much about leagues, being "below" somebody, "above" somebody, calling your friends or girls you are talking to below you on some ladder, 30 or 300K, being a 7 or 10, success rates and other weird stuff. Maybe your buddy makes an impression of a nice and easy-going person that makes it easier for women to like him. Maybe he doesn't use leagues so much. Maybe doesn't care if he's 8/10 in eyes of his friends. Are you sure it's the girls that have a bit of an ego?

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    Quote Originally Posted by firelily [Register to see the link]
    As a girl in my 20s I would be uninterested in someone who thinks so much about leagues, being "below" somebody, "above" somebody, calling your friends or girls you are talking to below you on some ladder, 30 or 300K, being a 7 or 10, success rates and other weird stuff. Maybe your buddy makes an impression of a nice and easy-going person that makes it easier for women to like him. Maybe he doesn't use leagues so much. Maybe doesn't care if he's 8/10 in eyes of his friends. Are you sure it's the girls that have a bit of an ego?

    I don't think you read that thread all the way through

    If I approach a beautiful 35 to 40 year old woman, she could be a rocket scientist, she will always like me. I've had multiple beautiful women in that age range who were crazy about me

    if I approach a 25 year old who is just decent for her age, she will always blow me out immediately and want nothing to do with me whatsoever before I even have a chance to show her what kind of person I am

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    Maybe you give an unfavourable first impression to these girls. I assure you, the girls in 20s do date, so the problem is that they just don't date you. Instead of being angry at the generation like women in their 20s owe you something (they do not! even if they are 4 and you are 10), maybe a better approach would be just to be vulnerable - to ask yourself, I have a problem, it's about me, what I can do to change it. Since it's not your looks or status, the good place to look would be your inside - your thinking patterns, attitude, personality.

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    Quote Originally Posted by firelily [Register to see the link]
    As a girl in my 20s I would be uninterested in someone who thinks so much about leagues, being "below" somebody, "above" somebody, calling your friends or girls you are talking to below you on some ladder, 30 or 300K, being a 7 or 10, success rates and other weird stuff. Maybe your buddy makes an impression of a nice and easy-going person that makes it easier for women to like him. Maybe he doesn't use leagues so much. Maybe doesn't care if he's 8/10 in eyes of his friends. Are you sure it's the girls that have a bit of an ego?

    THIS.

    I am completely uninterested in dating you based on you thinking "leagues" have anything to do with looks or money. I specifically look for a guy who doesn't brag about his "fitness model physique" or the amount of money he makes. I don't care if the guy is balding or chubby or whatever. Some people do.

    Once I was walking around the club with my boyfriend and a group of guys (well dressed, presumably nice physique) came up to me and said I was out of my boyfriends league and why was I with him. I was literally so disgusted. My boyfriend (now husband) is amazing and how can you rate someone's "league" based on a look.

    Whenever people tell me that they have trouble getting people their own age but then go on to talk about looks and money and superficial stuff, I immediately realize it has nothing to do with "other" people and everything to do with that person.

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    It's not all about dat flash my friend... there is likely something about how you approach women in their 20's that they find off putting. Women in the age range you mention that are looking for committed relationships are beyond the point of throwing themselves at someone just because they look a certain way or have money.

    Also, why are you approaching women you consider beneath you?

    Also, women older than you (speaking from experience) are probably just looking to get their ego stroked by having a young good looking man on their arm... alot of them have been there done that with the committed relationships, or are focused on their careers and just want to have fun with some eye candy.

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