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    Mikaila
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    Only too eager guys

    Why it seems that the only guys who are interested are the too eager guys? And they usually are the ones that I don't like physically or emotionally. Obviously the ones I am interested seem not interested maybe because I am too eager myself with them? Tips? Maybe to treat the non-interested as the too eager guys?

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    It could just be your personality. Maybe you find it more attractive to go after the men who are harder to get? Maybe they seem more mysterious or better seeing as they are more unattainable?

    The ones who are eager might in your eyes look too easy a catch?

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    That too. Also, the ones I am attracted are never too eager! Also, with these guys I an shy where instead with the others I am not.

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    It's not a problem per se. If you find the guys that are less eager more attractive, so be it. There's nothing wrong with it.

    I think both men and women want a chase to a certain degree and if there is no chase at all, some people can find it boring. It's not like that for everyone, obviously. Some people want people who are eager.

    It all depends on your preference.

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    Is it too eager or is it clingy and insecure? there's a difference between being turned off by someone who lacks social skills, doesn't give you space to get to know them on the one hand and someone who is simply reliable and trustworthy where you like more of a challenge that comes from the unreliable people. Figure that out first IMO and then you can take it from there.

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    I am sorry to sound bad but the ones who are like that are never the ones I find beautiful to put it bluntly. It never happens with guys I find beautiful. I know that this a probl

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    Why is it a problem? It's your opinion and if that's the type of man you're attracted to, then so be it.

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    Your standards are too high.

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    Yes, this used to be me. Consider whether you are avoiding being in a truly intimate relationship. Its hard to self-identify. At least, it was for me. Googling about avoidant attachment styles helped me understand.

    Try to think of men as people. Forget their gender and assume they have forgotten yours. That may lead to some confusing situations that will help you identify how you behave differently with different people.

    At some point, your attraction will become less powerful as you begin to value people over products. It takes a long time to know a person so your desire for the hot ones will be tempered by how little you know about that person.

    The ones who are over eager for you will fall away because your behavior will become more neutral and also becauae you won't notice their interest.

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    It simple psychology. We desire most what we can't have. When we are faced with someone who seems aloof or a challenge, dopamine is released our brain, making them more desirable to us.

    I have told many guys to be desirable is to be unavailable. For girls we see this as very masculine/confident/strong....traits that we find so irresistible.

    Being too eager, putting you up on a pedestal, doing everything for you, is seen as weak, submissive behavior. I just go ew! when I think about it lol.

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