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    Would it be insane to kiss this guy?

    I'm in my early 20s and am crushing hard on my physical therapist who's helping me with a chronic injury. Since I got injured, my life's been turned upside down. I haven't had a social life in nearly a year and a half. I used to have a ton of friends, go on dates with many amazing guys, and had a vibrant life.

    Now I'm home a lot and the only consistent man I interact with in real life (texts don't count..) is my PT. I have dreams about him, which are most likely caused by all the physical contact. The urge to make a move is ridiculously strong - would it be insane? It seems crazy just writing this out? I fantasize about closing the door whenever we're alone together and telling him to kiss me - and maybe hookup. My program with him is nearly over so I'll wonder "what if" if I don't make a move. But I know it's not allowed..

    He's 46. Guys always pursue me and make out with me first. I've never felt this strong urge to initiate and it's freaking me out.

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    Omg.....no

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    Quote Originally Posted by spv2008 [Register to see the link]
    I'm in my early 20s and am crushing hard on my physical therapist who's helping me with a chronic injury. Since I got injured, my life's been turned upside down. I haven't had a social life in nearly a year and a half. I used to have a ton of friends, go on dates with many amazing guys, and had a vibrant life.

    Now I'm home a lot and the only consistent man I interact with in real life (texts don't count..) is my PT. I have dreams about him, which are most likely caused by all the physical contact. The urge to make a move is ridiculously strong - would it be insane? It seems crazy just writing this out? I fantasize about closing the door whenever we're alone together and telling him to kiss me - and maybe hookup. My program with him is nearly over so I'll wonder "what if" if I don't make a move. But I know it's not allowed..

    He's 46. Guys always pursue me and make out with me first. I've never felt this strong urge to initiate and it's freaking me out.
    What you're proposing (going in for a kiss or closing the door etc.) would be sexual harassment. If you like him, when you're finished your therapy, ask him out for coffee or a drink. If he's interested in you, he'll accept or he will decline because its unprofessional for him to get involved with a patient/client.

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    Wow. Just...NO. Totally inappropriate. Imagine if the roles were reversed and a guy did this to his PT. He'd be locked up for sexual harassment.

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    What a bad idea. Dont do it. I once had a crush on someone so bad it almost drove me to do stupid things, along the lines of what you are thinking. I'm glad I restrained myself, it would have been disastrous to try to live out my crush.

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    that is sexual harassment if he is there for PT and you try to make a pass at him. Imagine if the genders were reversed and your sister told you her health professional tried to touch her breast or kiss her. He would be arrested. Wake up. Go into the office for PT or ask for a female physical therapist.

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    btw, he is old enough to be your father.

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    Quote Originally Posted by melancholy123 [Register to see the link]
    What a bad idea. Dont do it. I once had a crush on someone so bad it almost drove me to do stupid things, along the lines of what you are thinking. I'm glad I restrained myself, it would have been disastrous to try to live out my crush.
    But what's the worst that could happen? The urge is so strong. Only kissing is fine. I know I'll regret it though. It's so hard!

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    That's true but I couldn't care less. I'm so conflicted. I know I shouldn't do anything but I really want to.

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    That's true but I couldn't care less. what's the worst that could happen?
    Sorry, but both those statements show major immaturity. You couldn't care less? Really? He could lose his job!! How is any of that right? You don't care?

    OP, it's interesting to note that since you registered in May, all your threads talk about people you crush on. It seems every month you have a different crush. It's almost like you live in a fantasy land and not reality. You seem to struggle with real relationships?

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