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    Boyfriend jealous of my ex

    I have this ex who completely broke my heart anytime i even hear his name its painful. I decided to.go no contact a year ago and commited to never checking up on him or knowing anything about him. Today my current boyfriend was telling me how he checked up on my exs facebook and was about to update me about his life. Before he had a chance i said please dont tell me any information because i dont want to know. Now hes annoyed because he thinks im not over him and he said i looked like i was about to burst out crying when he mentioned his name. Now hes refusing to talk to me and went home straight away. Did i handle the situatiom wrong? I just didnt want to open an old wound when i was doing well.

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    Why did he look him up?? That's strange....honestly I think he crossed a line of sorts by even doing that. What was he trying to accomplish??

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    OP, you're not over him until you accept that you were in a relationship with someone who wasn't right for you, take responsibility for that, and let the pain go. Let it go so you go forward without any part of you left in the past.

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    Originally Posted by IAmFCA
    OP, you're not over him until you accept that you were in a relationship with someone who wasn't right for you, take responsibility for that, and let the pain go. Let it go so you go forward without any part of you left in the past.
    With respect...I don't thnk the OP did anything wrong here. I think it was her right to not want to discuss her ex.

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    Maybe therea a part of me thats not over it but its been a long time and i have moved on there will always be a little part of me hurt over that but i dont think that will ever go away.

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    I think hd should be happy i dont want to be stuck in the past instead of checking up on my ex all the time. Wouldnt that be worse?

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    Originally Posted by JA0371
    Why did he look him up?? That's strange....honestly I think he crossed a line of sorts by even doing that. What was he trying to accomplish??
    I agree.

    Nonetheless, OP expresses a degree of pain that is right beneath the surface. She is holding onto pain; I see his point. And to have left altogether... thinking his instincts already were firing about this.

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    Originally Posted by JA0371
    With respect...I don't thnk the OP did anything wrong here. I think it was her right to not want to discuss her ex.
    I 100% agree with this. One of my exes physically abused me... Hospital visit and a restraining order was involved. S**t I wouldn't want to talk about in detail because it's so painful. If I ever dated a guy who was going on social media to stalk my exes on social media and then tried interrogating me with my past, I would be done with him in a heartbeat. This isn't about rebounding... This is about the boyfriend being very insecure and trying to dig up the OP's past.

    The fault is on the boyfriend. He is the one displaying lack of trust by snooping.

    The way I see it, the OP IS burying the hatchet and trying to move on. Her boyfriend is trying to dig the hatchet up.

    This guy should be toast.

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    I'd be questioning, and annoyed with, your boyfriend. It's not like you look up your ex, or talk excessively about him, or text him. Your boyfriend has this strange jealous fascination with this ex, and I'd be ticked. Not only did he do something weird to look him up, but he tried to get a rise out of you by trying to get you to view your ex's stuff.

    I'd tread carefully with this boyfriend. Line: crossed.

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    Originally Posted by LHGirl
    I'd be questioning, and annoyed with, your boyfriend. It's not like you look up your ex, or talk excessively about him, or text him. Your boyfriend has this strange jealous fascination with this ex, and I'd be ticked. Not only did he do something weird to look him up, but he tried to get a rise out of you by trying to get you to view your ex's stuff.

    I'd tread carefully with this boyfriend. Line: crossed.
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    OP, are you over him?

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