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Thread: My partner has a porn problem and posted intimate images of me on a pronsite

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    My partner has a porn problem and posted intimate images of me on a pronsite

    I had a strange feeling that my partner was hiding something from me. He would spend long times on his cellphone and would put it down as soon as I approached him. Because of this I looked through his phone one night and found that he has a porn profile with intimate pics of me. He used images that he would take of me naked, sometimes without my consent, and images form my FB profile to upload them to a porn website pretending to be me. He also had another account where he uploaded videos of his ex getting naked. She sent these to him while they were dating, way before he met me.

    I confronted him about it and he admitted that he has a porn problem. He asked for forgiveness and he said that he wants to solve his porn issue but doesnít know where to seek help. He said that regardless if we stay together or not he will solve his problems because he knows he has a problem and he wants to overcome it. He deleted all the content he had on that porn profile in front of me. He also affirmed me that aside from his porn problem he never cheated on my with anyone because he truly and genuinely loves me
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    I donít know what to do. Should I forgive him? Should I walk away? I thought our relationship was going well. I know he loves me and I love him too. But I just donít know if I should forgive him. He broke my trust, he shamed me in front of thousands of online users, he didnít think or care about the consequences this may bring to me later in my life.

    Before we started our relationship, I always had doubts about wanting to be with him. Heís not exactly everything that I want in a partner. But I know he is a person of good and honest feelings. I just donít know how to deal with his porn problem. Should I stick around and work with him through this together? Should I walk away?

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    Get out of this relationship NOW. He took unknown naked pictures of you and posted them on a porn site? Don't think for a moment about staying with him. His relationship to porn doesn't matter at all. He put naked pictures of you on the internet without your permission.

    He can't love you. He doesn't respect you. HE PUT UP NAKED PICTURES OF YOU!

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    OMG! Why aren't you gone?????? How could you even consider staying with someone like this? And no, this is not love.

    This has nothing do with an addiction, he is a complete sleaze bag!

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    Would you be okay if you were standing naked and he handed you to a room full of men? Because this is no different.

    What he did was criminal and he could be charged if you decided to.

    This is more than a matter of being embarrassed, this is matter of safety. He handed you naked to hundreds of strangers. That's extremely dangerous behavior.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Would you be okay if you were standing naked and he handed you to a room full of men? Because this is no different.

    What he did was criminal and he could be charged if you decided to.

    This is more than a matter of being embarrassed, this is matter of safety. He handed you naked to hundreds of strangers. That's extremely dangerous behavior.
    Sherry is right. This is criminal behavior. I would report him to the authorities.

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    OMG you have to ask what to do??? GET AWAY from him NOW. Those photos of you are now online and will remain there til hell freezes over. You should be beyond PO'd with this loser.

    Also stop posing for naked photos.

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    I know I need to leave him and I told him itís over. But is been harder for me than I thought. He was my first serious relationship out of college, my first love. He met a lot of my family and I met his. We had moved in together about five months ago after dating for a year. We had plans of getting married and having kids for the future.

    I know I shouldnít forgive him but I canít get over him right away. I know heís an honest person and I want to help him with his addiction problem. I feel bad for him because after living with him, aside from his problem, I know heís a nice person. However, Iím also in pain due to what he did to me. I know addictions can be hard to deal with and Iím afraid that if I step away itíll affect his recovery process. But then again, I donít want him to think that Iím okay with what he did and that Iíll always be forgiving him. What he did is very serious and at the end of the day Iím the one whoís most affected.

    I just donít know what to do. I donít demonize him because Iíve experience his kindness to others. But i also understand that what he did to me and his other ex is unacceptable.

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    So what. We have all had a first love, and survived.

    What this guy did is criminal, dangerous and disgusting. It is not the porn that made him do it - he did not have to put your pics up - but his sleazy character.
    How would you feel if your family or an employer saw the picks? Make better choices in life. I would also suggest counseling.

    You cannot sink any lower than this creep!!!! IT IS NOT THE ADDICTION!!! STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THIS SLIME BALL! I suggest that you tell your family about all of this, and see what the suggest.

    I suggest you also look up co dependence. Check out CODA. Your are not his counselor, mother or caretaker. He made very adult decisions when he posted these pics.

    This is one of the worst threads I have read on this site. I cannot believe that you are feeling sorry for him. Where did your self worth go? You should be filing charges.

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    What do you think your family would think of him posting your nude photos online?

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    He is a pathetic excuse of a man and no I would not forgive that .

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