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    Originally Posted by pippy longstocking
    There is no harm in having bounderies and maybe you just need some of those ....

    for example ...In role play I am quite happy to have a houseful climbing on top of me ( but in reality there is just me and my partner ...my invisible partner because I am old, wrinkled and lonely ) but in the role play alsorts is going on ..my boundary is ...no bringing friends we have into the role play ...

    I know you are talking about watching porn not role play , but my point , when I get there , is , is he telling you too much , is he telling you he just slammed one out to porn and the girl was hot etc etc ...how has this all come about ?
    No, I found it in his found as I was trying to use his internet lol.

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    Originally Posted by rianblack
    Do you guys consider watching porn as cheating?
    No I don't. However, that is an OPINION. If you wish to consider it cheating, be my guest. Your opinion is just as valid as mine.

    However, you should know that, for better or for worse, a vast majority of men look at porn on a regular basis. That is not an opinion, that is a statistical fact. A fact you cannot change. A fact that is likely going to plague you for the rest of your life if you keep thinking about it.

    Now, most men are discrete about it, and if they have a woman that shares your opinion, hide it as best they can.

    I won't tell you to just get over it. However, if you're going to be with a man that watches porn, he obviously is going to need to be more discrete than your boyfriend. I swear, the amount of guys that don't know how to use incognito mode astounds me.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Do you make your life about him, or do you have a full life with friends and activities?

    Can you identify where these insecurities come from?
    Well I guess you could say that sense my life now itís of nothing but my daughter, boyfriend, school, and work. I donít have much of a social life.

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    Originally Posted by rianblack
    Well I guess you could say that sense my life now itís of nothing but my daughter, boyfriend, school, and work. I donít have much of a social life.
    You sound very busy. Do you have many friends? Do you get out and do things with them when you have free time.

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    Originally Posted by rianblack
    No, I found it in his found as I was trying to use his internet lol.
    I honestly wouldn't worry .... I have watched porn while in a relationship ..I have fanatised while in a relationship ....be careful what you wish for darling , I mean that ..... for him to only ever every day , 24/7 , only have eyes for you I would think there something wrong ..we all have fleeting thoughts and can be very much in love and dedicated to our partners . Don't allow yourself to be on this pedestal with any man because the fall is a long way down .

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    Originally Posted by rianblack
    No, I found it in his found as I was trying to use his internet lol.
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    Don't tell him. He will think that you were snooping.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    You sound very busy. Do you have many friends? Do you get out and do things with them when you have free time.
    I gave up on having friends after I had my kid at a young age and they were still stuck in the party phase

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    Originally Posted by rianblack
    I gave up on having friends after I had my kid at a young age and they were still stuck in the party phase
    That's not healthy. Certainly, there are many women in your age group who have kids, who you can bond with. I would also think that it would be good for your kids.

    Make new friends.

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    Pretty much all guys watch porn from time to time. Heck most women Iíve dated have watched porn. It is not cheating to watch porn in my opinion.
    Does your partner treat you well?

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    Don't let your loneliness and lack of social life ruin you ...don't let it grab onto things and ruin your relationship , pick your arguments wisely ...

    Can you go to parent and tot groups ..I did cos I was alone , so went to any group I could , or if your child is older can you join in school stuff to meet other mums , keep your mind occupied .

    I say all this as a person looking back on life and by god , did I let my mind fester !!!

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