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Thread: My sisterís bf is getting on my nerves. Should I have a talk with mom?

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    My sisterís bf is getting on my nerves. Should I have a talk with mom?

    My sister (25) has a bf who is really getting on my nerves. I live with my parents still and so does my sister and her bf comes over everyday. I feel like he is invading our personal space but my mom likes him cause he likes to suck up to her. He always finds a way to come inside the house everyday and itís just starting to get annoying cause thereís not a single day where he doesnít come over. He also recently started picking her up in the morning cause they work close to each other. What I hate about my sister is that she treats my mom like crap but when her bf is over, sheís the ďnicestĒ human being there is.

    What my mom doesnít know is that he sleeps over late at night but he waits until she leaves to work. During these late nights, I sleep downstairs but I always hear thumping from my sisterís room which Iím sure they are having sex and our dogs just keep barking. I literally just woke up while asleep after i started hearing all these thumping noises and dogs barking

    This is kiddish but should I tell my mom that this guy comes over every time she leaves for work at night?

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    All this would melt away when you get your own place and start dating again. Start right now looking for affordable house shares, roommates, apts, rooms, etc. Also start working more hours or a part time job. This would get you some money and time out of the house. It sounds like you resent that your sister has a someone in her life (and a life) but you don't.

    The way to resolve that is not by tattling to your mother about her but getting out more, getting involved in your job, classes, courses, clubs, groups, sports and getting on some dating apps. If you feel this much inertia and resentment, maybe it's time to see a doctor to rule out some medical or biochemical issues and get treatment and a referral to a therapist. Tattling and envy/resentment are't solutions.

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    If everything and everyone annoys you move out . There is a reason everything annoys us at home when we are adults itís because we are supposed to leave.

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    Third vote for move out. If you don't like it there, leave.

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    Are you old enough to move pout? If so, then do it. Dont tattle tale to your mother unless you want to start WWIII in your house.

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    I think the OP is 30 more than old enough to jump the nest.

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    You are 30. Why aren't you on your own? You are a grown azz man, don't you think it is time to move out from mommy!

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    You are 25. Why aren't you on your own?
    25, well you are more than old enough to be on your own. What's stopping you?

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    Honestly, i would fling open the sister's door in the middle of the night or before mom leaves for work and i would very loudly say "oh, i didn't realize our parents allowed you to have sex in the house" so everyone could hear and "out" them so everyone can hear. I get what people say about moving out

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