oscuro Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 My mother currently lives with me and my girlfriend because she's been unable to find work and no one else is able to support. It's not ideal. Anyway, she's often stressed and unhappy and I find that I can not emotionally deal with it. So I distance myself emotionally. To protect myself. I can't tell if this is a bad strategy or not. Her sadness and stress is pretty constant and I don't feel able to offer her much in terms of warmth or anything. Is that bad? Might that make this situation worse? Link to comment
abitbroken Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 In remembering your other posts, you really need mom to move out or decide to be responsible for her for the rest of her life at the expense of your relationship. I wouldn't worry about how emotionally available you are to her. You can better establish a relationship after she moves out. Distancing yourself may be helping you because you might be enabling her otherwise. But you need to act -- not just 'distance yourself" and ignore her in your apartment Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted November 17, 2017 Share Posted November 17, 2017 You are too close. Mom needs to get a job and find her own place to live. Are there career counselling places nearby? Is there an agency that helps older people find work? Can she get retraining somehow? Social services in your area should be able to help her find a job and a place geared to income. Link to comment
oscuro Posted January 14, 2018 Author Share Posted January 14, 2018 My mother found an apartment and job. Rather randomly and due to hard work and sheer luck. She's still unhappy though. I don't nkow how to handle that. Link to comment
greendots Posted January 15, 2018 Share Posted January 15, 2018 oscuro Glad to read that your mother found an apartment and a job. Does she have any friends, hobbies or does she volunteer? Link to comment
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