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    Katharina
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    Question Do I ask too much?

    I've been dating my bf for three months. And soon is my Bday. Is it ok, if I ask him to present me the curling iron? Or is it too much? And only flowers are enough?

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    Personally asking for specific presents at such an early stage of a relationship is too much, IMO, unless he has asked you specifically what you would like. If you dropped hints, but you should not set your expectations that he will get it for you.

    Early in a relationship it is a show of feelings as he doesn't know you as indepth as say after 3 years.

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    I wouldn't ask for anything right now, never mind specific....it's too early on.

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    That's quite a sense of entitlement there. "Only" flowers would be plenty, even assuming he goes that far. Early on, the most I'd expect is a "Happy Birthday," maybe a dinner. That's all assuming he's got any real reason to remember your exact birthday with only knowing you for a few months.

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    Lol....I would just expect a happy birthday dinner and maybe flowers....
    Buy your own curling iron.....

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    I think as it is this early on , I would just let him set the pace for himself and buy what he feels . If he asks you what you would like , I don't think I would mention the curling irons simply based on cost .

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    I would not even if he asks - depending on how expensive it is. Also it sounds like something a girlfriend or family member would get you as a present not a boyfriend. At 3 months I think he should acknowledge your birthday and perhaps give you a card or something small.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Keyman [Register to see the link]
    Personally asking for specific presents at such an early stage of a relationship is too much, IMO, unless he has asked you specifically what you would like. If you dropped hints, but you should not set your expectations that he will get it for you.

    Early in a relationship it is a show of feelings as he doesn't know you as indepth as say after 3 years.
    But what is the difference between 3 months relationship and 3 years relationship? Isn't it love in both variants?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katharina [Register to see the link]
    But what is the difference between 3 months relationship and 3 years relationship? Isn't it love in both variants?
    I can't take this seriously when it's in the context of whether or not you should ask for a curling iron.

    Lady, take some time and really soak in the responses you've gotten. You're being absurd.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katharina [Register to see the link]
    But what is the difference between 3 months relationship and 3 years relationship? Isn't it love in both variants?
    Well considering most relationships fail after 3 months...

    Yes there's a difference.

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