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    My ex came back again.

    My ex whom I broke up with in March 2016 has come back again. I posted about him a while ago coming back in March 2017 after 6 months NC. It didnt work out too good, though he made it seem he wanted me. We only talked a little. He made it clear the past couldnt be resolved so we had no chance. He then entered into a relationship which he told me nothing about at the time. I found out on facebook. I had a bf too at that time.

    We both went nc. I tried him a few times in june but no response. Now he reached out a few days ago after 6 months. He sent me a job opening which has to do with my career. I broke nc, saying thanks and i will apply. He then wrote longer emails implying he missed me and re thought everything in his life and feels I was the love of his life, that noone compares to me, etc etc. Hes on a breakup with his gf which he said never gave him feelings like I did. They may or may not try again but he was honest about the whole thing. Something about her being immature. I also told him about my situation that went south after 18 months and that Im not ready to date etc.

    He wants to talk more and meet but I just dont know. I was very honest and told him I feel hes using me bcuz his new gf went downhill but he assured me hes not. Our relationship was filled with love and i do feel he really loved me. He came back numerous times but it was just too soon or bad timing. I got a bf 3 months after our breakup. He always says Im the greatest love he ever felt. No girl has given him that since us .

    Well Im hesitant for the obvious reasons. Plus hes in limbo with his ex GF. I did love the guy very deeply but Idk what to do. Hes been texting be daily reminicing on old times and how good we had it. Hes very open but not overly open to the point of fakeness.

    Weve been broken up almost 2 years now. Something always draws us back in. I feel im a totally better person since then and him too. I dont think hes coming back to reconcile but it does sound like hes thought of it. Ive had strong intuition/signs that hes the one for me .

    Should I continue talking to him and eventuslly meet up, or cut it off? When i went nc i did feel better and it cut down my addiction to him. Now that hes coming back i do feel excited to hear from him but not in that needy way which I owe to nc.

    Any opinions on what to do next? I dont want to get hurt again but at the same time I do have desire to speak to him.

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    The only reason he contact you was because he's on the rocks with his girlfriend. If she were to change her tune, he'd drop you like he did last time. Cut it off. And make sure the job wasn't at the same company he works for or don't apply. The job opportunity was just a cover for the real reason he contacted you. He already told you that you had no chance with him - so don't give him one

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    Quote Originally Posted by abitbroken [Register to see the link]
    The only reason he contact you was because he's on the rocks with his girlfriend. If she were to change her tune, he'd drop you like he did last time. Cut it off. And make sure the job wasn't at the same company he works for or don't apply. The job opportunity was just a cover for the real reason he contacted you. He already told you that you had no chance with him - so don't give him one
    Thank you! No the job was a totally different field than his.

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    Quote Originally Posted by abitbroken [Register to see the link]
    The only reason he contact you was because he's on the rocks with his girlfriend. If she were to change her tune, he'd drop you like he did last time. Cut it off. And make sure the job wasn't at the same company he works for or don't apply. The job opportunity was just a cover for the real reason he contacted you. He already told you that you had no chance with him - so don't give him one
    Bingo.

    Don't go there again with him, OP. He's not coming back for the right reasons and you are nearly guaranteed to get hurt all over again.

    EDIT: I browsed your previous threads. Is this the same guy you once caught sexting other women?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissCanuck [Register to see the link]
    Bingo.

    Don't go there again with him, OP. He's not coming back for the right reasons and you are nearly guaranteed to get hurt all over again.
    Thanks. Do you think I should tell him that or just continue to ignore? We spoke about 4 days now in a row.

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    When you have chartered waters NOT together and has to make it on your own, it always, ALWAYS seems better when you look back and imagine a life with him , just use your imagination , do you really want to be back together with him ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jillstrand23 [Register to see the link]
    When you have chartered waters NOT together and has to make it on your own, it always, ALWAYS seems better when you look back and imagine a life with him , just use your imagination , do you really want to be back together with him ?
    I do feel at times hes the one for me yes.. but dont know how that would work. I am also very experienced in dating and know I never felt that way for anyone. He openly admitted that too about his feelings. So I just dont know .

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissCanuck [Register to see the link]
    Bingo.

    Don't go there again with him, OP. He's not coming back for the right reasons and you are nearly guaranteed to get hurt all over again.

    EDIT: I browsed your previous threads. Is this the same guy you once caught sexting other women?
    Yes thats the reason we broke up but he was a changed man after that. I just couldnt trust again. It was better off breaking up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mandeelove [Register to see the link]
    Yes thats the reason we broke up but he was a changed man after that. I just couldnt trust again. It was better off breaking up.
    Then this right here is exactly why you should not even entertain the idea of reconciling. Trust issues (rightfully!) and suspect timing and circumstances for his recent return?

    This is so not worth the risk, girl.

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    You are just going to have to be really careful going BACK to a new relationship. Its just unknown if you can be successful or not on a second try. I would stay away from him and clear your head so you can get a better perspective on things! Good luck Mandeelove.

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