Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 4 1234 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 36

Thread: How much should I find out about his sex life during time apart?

  1. #1
    Annabelle6756

    Join Date
    Nov 2017
    Posts
    3

    How much should I find out about his sex life during time apart?

    I've was with my ex for 10 years and he broke up with me because he was no longer sure if he ever wanted to have children.

    After 3 months apart he now says he has realised he made a big mistake, wants to have children but importantly with me.

    However ,while apart he has slept with other people.

    Should I find out who those people are and ask questions even though it will hurt. I'm not sure I can accept it and move on unless I do. I might be forever wondering if it is every woman who likes a picture of his on social media...But, is it better to just accept that as as part of his journey he made mistakes and the less I know about it the better?

    Any experience of this or outsider advice welcome.

  2. #2
    ThatwasThen
    Platinum Member ThatwasThen's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2013
    Location
    Central Canada
    Posts
    10,273
    Gender
    Female
    I think that if you want to ask questions, then you must be able to handle the truth or leave if what he tells you is more then your sensibilities can handle.

  3. 11-04-2017, 08:48 PM

  4. #3
    pippy longstocking
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Location
    london
    Posts
    11,436
    For me , I would know that can of worms would destroy me... but ...not knowing and my imagination filling in the gaps would also destroy me .

  5. #4
    pippy longstocking
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Location
    london
    Posts
    11,436
    oi troll ..leave vulnerable people alone !!!!

  6. #5
    SweetGirl28
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Sep 2017
    Posts
    409
    Gender
    Female
    You need to know, because your sexual health may be at risk.
    And insist he gets tested for STD's.

  7. #6
    figureitout23
    Gold Member figureitout23's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2017
    Posts
    798
    I don't know what good will come of you knowing. You probably think you feel terrible not knowing so knowing will make it better but I highly doubt it will, the betrayal happened and no matter what you find out it's up to you to decide whether or not you can move past it.

  8. #7
    Giblesp
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    429
    Gender
    Male
    Maybe you've already covered this with him, but what happened in such a short time apart to make him change his mind so drastically? Sorry if that raises any issues that are uncomfortable but in all honesty that was my first reaction when reading your post.

  9. #8
    boltnrun
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2015
    Posts
    6,484
    Quote Originally Posted by figureitout23 [Register to see the link]
    I don't know what good will come of you knowing. You probably think you feel terrible not knowing so knowing will make it better but I highly doubt it will, the betrayal happened and no matter what you find out it's up to you to decide whether or not you can move past it.
    They were broken up. I don't see it as a "betrayal".

    OP, do you think knowing the details will make you feel better or worse?

  10. #9
    annie24
    Super Moderator annie24's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2004
    Age
    37
    Posts
    46,507
    I wouldn't ask. I don't think I'd want to know because it would really bother me. For me, I'd just want a blood test so that I knew he didn't get any diseases during our time apart.

  11. #10
    Seymore
    Platinum Member Seymore's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Age
    38
    Posts
    4,290
    Gender
    Male
    ďMan, Iím glad they told me they had sex with (insert number) people! My life is more fulfilled now. Ē

    - Unknown (because no one said it)

  12.  

Page 1 of 4 1234 LastLast
Top Threads
I messed up my relationship. Now we are acting like FWB.
Iíve posted before my story of how me and my ex broke up. We dated for 8 months. Known him for over 2 years though and had a good friendship with him
Has she moved on?
We were in love and really cared for each other. Everything felt perfect. A sudden fight and she brought up an issue(family) close to my heart. In
Trying to get long distance ex girlfriend back
So around last month my long distance ex girlfriend of 3 years(going to 4) broke up with me and her reason was that she needs space, wants to focus
Try to connect... or Stay the Course
My GF and i met online and chatted every night for several hours and said "good night" and in the mornings for breakfast. we had already planned a
Broke up last week, she wants to meet for one final night
We messed things up. Broke up. I said ok I leave to another country. She's been sending mixed signals. She suggested to meet again for one
Chance of getting her back ?
Hey guys, My ex-gf and me broke up a couple of months ago. Two or three weeks ago, i told her that i want to stop our contact because i need space
Ex girlfriend cancelled plans. Did I overreact?
My ex girlfriend and I broke up a couple months ago. Since then, we've talked and want to work on things and eventually get back together when we

Featured Threads
What eNotAlone gave you?
I wonder mostly about long-time members who decided to be a part of this community. Has this forum enriched your lives, and if so, in what
How to end things with him
Iíve been dating this guy for 2 months. In the beginning he was very sweet and romantic, however I learned in the last month or so that he is
My ex bf told me he wants sex, nudes and me to loan him money until he's stable... Should I lend $?
Hello.. I am 22 I met my ex bf (21) 3 years ago in college. He dropped out of college after the first semester.. he didn't go to finals. He stayed in
How Should I have handled it?
My GF and I were together for about 5 months. Things were great except for some of my questioning her online activity which challenged her. All
My Ex Husband still berates me
Hello, first off I am not sure why I am on a forum but.. I need an anonymous outlet I guess because my friends and family all say the same thing
Yall ready for a messed up one...
Okay, so i cheated on my bf about 6 month ms into our relationship with a guy 20 years older then me at our work. And it was a rule that it was only
Iím at a really bad state of mind right now
Itís been a little over the month since the breakup, since then, heís messaged me 2-3 times about random topics (that I donít care about), and has
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •