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    Should I contact my crush's mom??

    Hi all,

    When I was in elementary school, there was a boy who had a crush on me for pretty much our entire grade school career. At the time, I didn't think much of it because we were kids. Now we are both in our mid-30s, neither of us has been married or has kids. We've kept in touch off and on over the years. Now that I'm an adult, I have started to have feelings for him. I think he and I would be a good match because we both come from good families, have similar backgrounds, etc. I've reached out to him a few times recently, but he's not interested at all. He's more interested in "bad" girls.

    I recently found out his mother has been telling people "she needs to find a nice, good girl" for her son. Well, I am a nice, good girl! Should I reach out to his mother to plant the seed, or just let this whole thing go??

    Thanks for any input you might have!

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    No darling no no no

    He gets to choose his own path , not what his mother wants and she cannot influence him to be with you , he is a grown man .

    Let it go
    Last edited by pippy longstocking; 11-04-2017 at 05:44 PM.

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    Uuuuuuh no . If my mom was interfering in my love life in my 30ís I would just... well.

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    Oh that's true...I did not think about it that way! Thank you for the perspective!

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    Good lord, no

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    No. He is not interested.

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    OP, I'm gonna need you to pour yourself a glass of water and take a drink.

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    It sounds like you don't expect him to fall in romantic love with you, but be with you for rational reasons because you are "a good match" and "from a good family". Nothing wrong with that approach to relationships, but he may have a different one and romantic interest he has in these girls is more important to him than purely rational reasons. And he doesn't have that interest in you. Either way, it's his choice and he didn't choose you.

    If you feel like you need to find yourself someone, being in your 30s, maybe give dating sites a try? Especially the ones oriented for people who had similar values to you, so that you could find yourself someone compatible, from a good family, with similar background, and actually interested.

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    Hmm....Did he say why?

    I remember once my grandparents and uncle tried to set me up with this girl as they are friends with her parents...She ended up stopping by during our family Christmas at my uncle's place and it was all kinda set up...I just remember her asking me, "You want me to grab you a beer?" then she asks if I want to go for a ride with her in her car....she parks the car, says that the music is too loud, turns it off, then tries to makeout with me....I guess she comes from one of the few US families that had property on an oil field, so they are completely loaded and she had an allowance of like $50,000 per week...

    Anyways, regardless of the money and the fact that If I would marry her I would own like 10 houses, have a private jet, and whatever LOL....I was just turned off by the whole situation and she wasn't really my type...maybe it was cause my family kept on telling me to go for her....They probably think I am gay now LOL

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    They probably think I am gay now LOL
    oh well you're the man for me

    ( too long to explain )

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