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Thread: Do I break No Contact?

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    Do I break No Contact?

    I'm 9 days into No Contact. Last week I shipped her things back but no one was in to collect the delivery. They've been taken to a different post office than the one I thought they would be at, not the closest one to the delivery address which is where she would surely go to pick them up, and since she has no idea I sent her things back I'm wondering if it's right to break no contact to say where her stuff is.

    I feel it's respectful to let her know where her belongings are but at the same time how do I do that without setting myself back?

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    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Do not break NO CONTACT.!!!!!!!!
    If you got the address right, the PO will deliver eventually....
    If it is wrong, it will come back to you and then you send it all when "SHE" contacts you...
    or better yet, let her come get it herself....

    Have some self value...

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    Thats tough one for you. I can see the advise saying no, dont do it. If she doesnt get it she will contact you.
    I can see the other side that it wouldnt be a bad thing to say, i sent your stuff.
    I guess that all depends on you. This shouldnt be an excuse to say hey, I want you back and Oh by the Way, I sent your stuff back. Or ask her how she is doing or if there is a chance... this should not be an excuse to open a door. If you can honestly say its to say I sent your stuff.. then okay.

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    NO!!! The post office will tell her where to get her stuff.

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    I actually think you should contact her to tell her , don't worry about the rigid rules we feel we have to follow , sometimes we lose ourselves in no contact to such a degree we are unable to do normal things , ie , let her know what has happened . I have known people running from one delivery office to the next because there have been mix ups .

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    ps ...but make it short and sweet and to the point ..no asking how she is blah blah blah

    you sent her stuff , post office mess etc....the end

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    Funnily enough, when I tried to pay for the shipping my bank card was blocked. Now this. It seems the universe has a cruel way of denying me the right to send stuff out my life.

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    It depends - do you want her back? If yes, then I'd say don't contact and wait for her to contact you when she is ready. Do you not care and are OK with not being together? Then just go contact and do as you wish.

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    Can you call the post office and tell them that you no longer speak to this person but the items need to be sent to the other post office near her? If you do that, it might confuse her if she's got some notification of where her items are

    I think it would be fine to break no contact for this, personally, but only to send one message and then don't respond to anything you get back

    If you're doing NC so you can get over her, then it doesn't matter too much to do the polite thing.
    If you're doing it because you want her back, I still think she'd rather that you tell her where her stuff is than let her figure it out and run around on her own

    Where I live though, they leave a calling card explicitly stating where the items are, including the street address of the post office even if it's not the nearest one. I assume she will have that information and you can just contact the post office to check if she's picked up the items in a week

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    I also agree with the above....

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