Rachel123 Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 My mother and I have just bought a house together for me and my partner to move into. So after we have decorated, I have told her we will take her and her partner for a meal and have a separate house warming for friends only. The only trouble is, she has decided to invite herself. She's decided she wants to bring drinks and maybe some food for everyone. I wouldn't mind but I cannot handle her after she has a drink. I love my mum to bits but she can't handle her alcohol and tends to be quite nasty and fall around etc. Can anyone suggest how to get out of this apart from cancelling the whole night? Thankyou xx Link to comment
rosephase Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 She is giving you half a house? I would say deal with it and let her come to your party. Being embarrassing in front of your friends is a tiny thing for a house. You could have a small "mom friendly" party and then a bigger one that you don't tell her about. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Have a dry party? No alcohol and warn your friends not to bring any. I'm sure people will survive for one night and be understanding of your mom issues. You can throw a more proper party another time sans mom. Link to comment
Rachel123 Posted October 17, 2017 Author Share Posted October 17, 2017 We bought the house together after my nanna passed. Half of the house is mine and I have paid for including all the decorating...i have set out a different night for her? It's not just that...she has a reputation with my friends after they've seen how she is after a drink. I have lived on my own since I was fifteen for our relationship to work as her drinking lead to fights when I was younger. Link to comment
indea08 Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Just tell her flat out. "Mom, I'm having you over on Monday for dinner. I'd really like to spend some time with just my friends on Thirsty Thursday. Please respect that." Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Tell her the housewarming is cancelled and then have it without her. My opinion of course. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 It sounds like this is the beginning of what's to follow, in other words you'll be at her mercy. I'm not putting your Mom down but I'll just say, get used to it. Just my opinion... As for the housewarming, I'd say what I mean and mean what I say. Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 18, 2017 Share Posted October 18, 2017 It sounds like this is the beginning of what's to follow, in other words you'll be at her mercy. I'm not putting your Mom down but I'll just say, get used to it. Just my opinion... As for the housewarming, I'd say what I mean and mean what I say. yeah, she'll feel entitled to x, y, or z because she put down half the money...... Link to comment
Rachel123 Posted October 18, 2017 Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 Thankyou everyone I picked up the courage to tell her today. She's taken it rather well. She tried pulling out the "I own half the house". But I managed to divert with her meal. Thanks again everyone Link to comment
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