Does it seem like I have a chance with her? If so, what should I do?

I like this girl and I think she knows. We live in a dorm and she’s my neighbor.

I’ve had good chats with her out at the pub and I really felt she enjoyed talking to me. She seemed to like it when I put my arm around her shoulder.

One night I messaged her “Did you get back safely hun? Just making sure.” She replied the next morning “I did! Thanks for checking up on me.”

One time, she came in my room asking how she looked and used my mirror for a bit.

One night, I told her that I've knocked on her door a couple of times for a chat and she told me to message her if there’s no answer.

I messaged her one night. “Feel like company for a bit?” She replied in the morning, “Sorry Nick. I was fast asleep when you sent this.” (She was).

I messaged her one night asking what she's up to. She said she got back from work and was chilling in her friends room. I asked her to come chat if she wanted to. She ended up coming for a second, but not sure if she did because she saw my fb message. She said "Hey. I'm exhausted. Fell asleep in my friend's room. What are you doing for the weekend." I said Dunno. There's no more football. It's gonna be horrible". She said "yeah. Nothing on tv too. I'm going home tomorrow, but back Sunday." We just said night.

One time I saw her as she was going in her room. We had a good 5 min social chat. During the talk, she either used her hand to keep her door open or me using my foot. She didn't smile, but did make eye contact. I put my hand against the wall to lean on and her eyes opened wider a little for a second.

I saw her at the pub the other night. I was sitting down chatting. When she walked past me, I gave her a big wave. She took a quick look at me and continued walking while giving me a little wave that wasn't really a wave. I realized she was probably busy because when I looked at where she was going, she was actually comforting a friend. After that, she walked round the back of the bar while looking in my direction for a couple of seconds. There was no expression on her face.

I was at the pub a few nights ago and we were kind of avoiding each other I think. I know I was. I looked at her one time when her group was near me. She was facing me, but her eyes were looking down. Not her head, just her eyes. Then towards the end of the night, out of the blue, she rubbed my shoulder and said bye and walked off. I looked behind me slowly and saw her waving at me while walking and I waved back. She gave me a kind of sorry/sad look too as she waved.

One final thing. I run a radio show at the uni, and I made a segment called love song dedications. Yesterday I ran a survey for people to dedicate a song to someone if they want. I had no idea she would contribute. She dedicated the song "Ring of Fire by Johnny Cash. She wrote "For putting in a lot of effort into the dorm and making me feel welcomed".

There's only one way to find out....

Seriously, put yourself out of your misery and ask her out!

Ask her out! You can do this! I don't know if she'll say yes, but she doesn't seem negative about it. The longer you wait the worse it will get for you and for her! I know it's hard, but prepare a message, think about it and when you are the most afraid to send it, press send! And go " it"

This works with me seriously xD

I think she isn't interested, because of the excuses as to leave and the recent avoiding. There may have been interest prior but probably isn't anymore.

I guess it never hurts to try, but that's my take on it.

There is really only one way to know for sure. Just ask her out and make sure it is apparent that it is more of a date than a friend hang out.

The longer you wait the more likely you are to be put into the friend category.

It doesn't sound to me like she is interested. Sorry!

The one thing I don't get it is why she dedicated the song to me. I had no idea she would contribute, let alone dedicate it to me of all people.

Sounds like you are chasing her away....You gotta stop perusing soo much like that....You must let women come to you when they are comfortable and not try and force things and knocking on her door when she is not expecting you.....

Here is an analogy. Men are more like dogs .whereas women are like cats....they will come on their own terms when they are interested...What you have been doing is like running up to a cat after seeing it for the first time and grabbing it by the tail! .I'm pretty sure it would just run away as fast as it can and never look back...

If you really want a chance with her, just sometime when you are out ask some questions to get to know her better. Perhaps you have something in common and then ask when should would be available to go out to etc...Like, maybe she likes to ice skate etc....if that is the case just be like, "hey, I know this really great place to go..let me know when you would be free and I'll take ya there" etc. etc. etc..

Also, when you see her just focus on making her smile and having a good time and that is it.....

I was walking into my room and my other neighbour (who's also female) yelled out hi. Then i heard the neighbour talk about me because I'm sure I heard my name and my crush's name being said. I didn't really hear what was said, except the neighbour saying this sentence clearly. "How can you fall in love with someone that's not your type".

That confirms I should move on, correct?

I was walking into my room and my other neighbour (who's also female) yelled out hi. Then i heard the neighbour talk about me because I'm sure I heard my name and my crush's name being said. I didn't really hear what was said, except the neighbour saying this sentence clearly. "How can you fall in love with someone that's not your type".

 

That confirms I should move on, correct?

No.

Ask her out. Her reply will tell you whether you need to move on or not!

Here is an analogy. Men are more like dogs .whereas women are like cats....they will come on their own terms when they are interested...What you have been doing is like running up to a cat after seeing it for the first time and grabbing it by the tail! .I'm pretty sure it would just run away as fast as it can and never look back...

This is an over-generalisation which is not very helpful to the OP...

This is an over-generalisation which is not very helpful to the OP...

I think it's extremely helpful if the woman he is after is very feminine in nature. I also don't think it is that much of an over-generalization just like it is not an over-generalization that men tend to propose to women...

Women who are feminine generally seek a guy that is centred and strong and does not get unglued so to speak or overly emotional/dramatic....Have you ever read a romance novel? I bet most women have read one or two in their lives...most guys have read none.......just like men are more turned on visually, women are more turned on verbally...they want to be in a romance....the anticipation....mystery....They don't want some guy to just be like "Hey, you are hot...i want to marry you and i could see myself with you even though I met you last week..but you are way tooo good looking for me....would you even consider going out with me? Im too indecisive to make any decisions"

That would be a total turn off...any ladies agree? You know....most people will "Say" what they like and don't like in the opposite sex...but! ....pay attention to the actions

Anyway, in this case, I just suggest the OP make her smile and ask her out for a date, but don't come on too strong because it will push her away ....

The one thing I don't get it is why she dedicated the song to me. I had no idea she would contribute, let alone dedicate it to me of all people.

She likes you, you are nice to her. She is not interested or attracted.

That's my take. Asking her out is the only way to find out for sure.

She likes you, you are nice to her. She is not interested or attracted.

 

That's my take. Asking her out is the only way to find out for sure.

If that's your take, why do you think she chose that song of all songs? The song's about one's burning desire for another.

The one thing I don't get it is why she dedicated the song to me. I had no idea she would contribute, let alone dedicate it to me of all people.

You should ask her why. Maybe she'll confess that she likes you. Or maybe she never paid attention to the lyrics. I only just googled them. Until today I always thought the song was about an uncomfortable situation.

This is an over-generalisation which is not very helpful to the OP...

Hmm, I kind of liked his analogy!

Also, one thing I found out. The other night, when she was with a couple of my mates and her mates they were talking about the dorm. Apparently she said, "Nick's always in his room every time I come back from work to the dorm." What do you make of that?

If that's your take, why do you think she chose that song of all songs? The song's about one's burning desire for another.

Her behaviour suggests she's only being friendly. Attempting to read anyone's mind is a complete waste of time. Humans are notoriously bad at it.

Also, one thing I found out. The other night, when she was with a couple of my mates and her mates they were talking about the dorm. Apparently she said, "Nick's always in his room every time I come back from work to the dorm." What do you make of that?

No one knows, but her. Ask her out.

I created a new dedication survey for my next radio show. I got one from her again, but it obviously wasn't her even though it said her name. The person dedicated the song "Right Thurr by Chingy to me. Reasoning - "For dedicating a song last week to a girl in his dorm lol".

What do you think of that?

Why not just ask her out on a date? If you are too worried to do that right now, then why not just plan an event with a bunch of cool people from your floor? Like all go out for a dinner at some really cool place? Just create a facebook event and invite em and see....If she ends up going then you will have a chance to talk and get to know her...show her a great time....plus since you created the event and if everyone's having a great time it would only make you look better in her eyes..

I used to throw huge parties when I was at university...from Halloween parties..to keg parties...New years parties etc. etc. With like DJs playing in our house etc....I dunno...I still always invited a girl I was interested in and always worked out..

Man up. Ask her on a date. Tell me - what's the worst way she could respond?

P.S. stop going through friends.