Have a awkward question?

So me and my bf have been together for 5 years, I was always against porn.

But lately I have been wanting to watch porn together, but I don't know how to approach him with this.

Couple of my worries , will this make him want to cheat? Will this make him check more women out? Is this a bad idea? And will it ruin our relationship if I tried this? In skeptical but just wanted some tips sorry for the weird question.

No it will prolly improve y'all sex life, they are called training films for a reason

I was just worried about it because I read online it can cause a man to cheat and we have never watched porn together and I want to try it just the idea turns me on but I don't know how to tell him I wanna try this!

Have you tried sitting down beside him when he's watching porn? Watching it together could be fun!

He doesn't ever watch it because I was so against it but I've changed my mind about it!

I just have a few worries as a person who was against porn for so long as that is normal

I was just worried about it because I read online it can cause a man to cheat and we have never watched porn together and I want to try it just the idea turns me on but I don't know how to tell him I wanna try this!

Don't get your information about men online. Especially if you have a living and breathing one right there. Porn will not trigger your BF into a frenzy of sexual activity with other women, he's a human being and not a mindless cretin.

If you've been with your boyfriend for 5 years, I'd think you'd be comfortable enough with one another that you could ask him if this is something he'd be interested in pursuing with you. There should be enough trust and understanding built up between the two of you by this point that it should be (and feel) safe to ask him about things you want to try.

I don't think porn is more likely to make someone cheat, or make them more likely to check out other women. I do think you sound a bit insecure still, considering the duration of your relationship, is there a reason for that?

You can ask, but don't ask if you're not able and willing to accept "no" for an answer. I get that it works for some couples and more power to 'em, but my brain has always been dumbfounded by the idea of watching porn with my partner. I very heavily compartmentalize intimacy with my partner and porn / masturbation. He may be the same.

If you've been with your boyfriend for 5 years, I'd think you'd be comfortable enough with one another that you could ask him if this is something he'd be interested in pursuing with you. There should be enough trust and understanding built up between the two of you by this point that it should be (and feel) safe to ask him about things you want to try.

 

I don't think porn is more likely to make someone cheat, or make them more likely to check out other women. I do think you sound a bit insecure still, considering the duration of your relationship, is there a reason for that?

I have always been insecure my whole life. I've been abused and molseted as a child so that messed me up pretty had I am in therapy for this though.

I have always been insecure my whole life. I've been abused and molseted as a child so that messed me up pretty had I am in therapy for this though.

Considering that, do you think this is a good and safe step for you at your present point in coping with having dealt with those things in the past? Or will it cause triggers, etc?

I'm all for exploring with your significant other, and it's OK for your tastes to change. Considering your history, however, I can understand why you're hesitant. Might be worth talking to your therapist about, too... as there could be something sparking your current interest that you haven't even though of yet.

Watching porn and infidelity don't have any causation link. I wouldnt worry about that. People might try to show a correlation but that doesn't prove anything.

Porn doesn't cause people to cheat, especially when used as a means to increase your sex life with your partner. I think you should approach him and tell him you would like to watch together. I understand it can be nerve-wracking because it's uncomfortable, but trying your best and being honest will be enough.

Porn doesn't cause people to cheat, especially when used as a means to increase your sex life with your partner. I think you should approach him and tell him you would like to watch together. I understand it can be nerve-wracking because it's uncomfortable, but trying your best and being honest will be enough.

Thanks everyone

Considering that, do you think this is a good and safe step for you at your present point in coping with having dealt with those things in the past? Or will it cause triggers, etc?

 

I'm all for exploring with your significant other, and it's OK for your tastes to change. Considering your history, however, I can understand why you're hesitant. Might be worth talking to your therapist about, too... as there could be something sparking your current interest that you haven't even though of yet.

Yes I understand it might trigger some things! I see your point as well. It's just I wanted to change the taste up a little bit idk what made me change my views on it, but something did, however I think my partner might be hesitant as I was always against it our whole relationship and always told him it was a deal breaker.

Yes I understand it might trigger some things! I see your point as well. It's just I wanted to change the taste up a little bit idk what made me change my views on it, but something did, however I think my partner might be hesitant as I was always against it our whole relationship and always told him it was a deal breaker.

There is nothing wrong with having a change in perspective.

I know that the first few times I did watch porn with my wife it was a little weird. Just it being something I've done solo for so long and then having a person join in is a bit of a transition.

I was worried I would be overly criticised about what I picked out, since she wanted me to pick it. Or that she would get mad at me for watching, lol. After a few times that all went away though.

I would recommend being very cautious while bringing it up. If you have been anti porn for this entire time it will throw him for a loop. He might even think it is some kind of trap.

I would say that you should be very chill and not criticise anything during it. If you don't like something I would just say you want to try something else as opposed to saying you don't like it.