Please help me. I am suffering

Because of different reasons, I had to take time out from studies. But now and also due to really bad upbringing, I really don't have anywhere to go and nothing to do. This is true even if I work. I come home alone, I find it hard to make and keep friends, to have fun, but I want to. I have been stuck in the room for three months and more for an entire day, every day, only getting up to eat something and being on internet.

I tried volunteering, I tried work before. Sometimes it makes me feel worse because I just have to do the work but can't socialise like normal people. Every day I hardly get by. I have been looking for help so much and everything where I live is useless. I am not depressed because I have drive and the wish but I am this way.

Everybody I know has friends/colleagues to go out with every single day even if they're not working. I really have nowhere to go and only meet people when I "have to do" something. I feel broken. Even the one girl I see a few times monthly, when I meet her I often don't know what to say, what to do and it feels like I have to "amuse someone" or have a plan in place. Otherwise I'd just be silent.

I just want to live normally and have fun like everyone else. I want to know why this is happening.

when I meet her I often don't know what to say,

Well, that's because you have nothing to say because you do nothing to make yourself interested or interesting.

 

Join an amateur sports team, get a hobby, do something you've always wanted to do but haven't gotten off your arse to do yet, You have to be a friend to get a friend and you're not going to find someone to be a friend to while you're stuck in your room on the internet 24/7.

 

What are your interests? What do you like to do? What, in your area could you be doing that will keep you interested and interesting to others?

 

You would do well to hire a life coach and get yourself figured out with his/her help.

 

I want to know why this is happening.

 

"This" is happening because you're not doing anything that would lead to something else happening.

...asking for clarification...

 

"even when you work"?

"you've tried working before"?

 

do i understand correctly you are neither working or in school now?

 

how old are you and who supports you?

 

and how does your upbringing play into it? eta never mind that, i just read the backstory.

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I would strongly advise you to go to a gym, everyday. It will keep you busy and keep your mind healthy. I went through a stage of being lonely myself and this really helped me.

Well, that's because you have nothing to say because you do nothing to make yourself interested or interesting.

 

Join an amateur sports team, get a hobby, do something you've always wanted to do but haven't gotten off your arse to do yet, You have to be a friend to get a friend and you're not going to find someone to be a friend to while you're stuck in your room on the internet 24/7.

 

What are your interests? What do you like to do? What, in your area could you be doing that will keep you interested and interesting to others?

 

You would do well to hire a life coach and get yourself figured out with his/her help.

 

 

 

"This" is happening because you're not doing anything that would lead to something else happening.

 

Ok. What kind of hobby can I do when on my own? There is actually not much I can do in my area. Yes I could join a club, that will be a few hours a week probably in one day. Other than that I really don't know where to go or what to do! It is a smaller place, it doesn't seem like it offers much and the one nightclub there was was closed. So please can you give some suggestions?

>Have you googled to see what's happening where you live?

>Have you looked into your school board to see what general interests, night classes they may offer. I once took a wine tasting course through that avenue and I really enjoyed it.

>Is there an amateur sports organizations like soccer or volleyball, baseball, bowling, bocce ball (anything) in your area?

>Can you dance? How about learning with dance lessons?

 

Are you in a country where you could join a site like meetup.com or meetmarketadventures.com where you pick activities to do with other singles?

How are you supporting yourself? Are you working with a counselor?