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    Did he subliminally ask me for nude photos? :(

    This guy I went on ONE date with after him flaking many times before (I spoke about him in a previous post). He sent me a text message last night which was a meme basically saying "send nudes" he put lol. I immediately got offended by it and assumed he was just looking for sex. He responded saying he only sent it to me because he thought it was funny. Mind you he didn't text me at all that day. When we do talk it's small talk like "whats up". As much as we hit it off on our date and he seemed like a good catch in person I just blocked him. Am I being too defensive or did I do the right thing by cutting him off?

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    nah you did the right thing ..it is obvious what he is after ..

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    That wasn't subliminal, that was right our front what he wanted. He said he was joking when you reacted the way you did.

    He may seem like a good catch but trust your gut.

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    Depends. If he wasn't overtly sexual or hinting at anything until this meme, then I would send a "Nope" in response. Actually, that's not true. I would look up a meme online and send something I thought was a funny picture sending a similar message of nope.

    Now, if he was sexually explicit previously and sent you suggestive messages before, then I would think he was fishing for some nudes and/or progressing into the sexy times.

    However, since you mentioned you both hit it off (which seems in your opinion lacking an emphasis in sexual talk or moves) and seemed like a good catch in person, I think you are being too defensive. I would unblock him. To me it seems he was just trying to be funny. Very dumb, but funny not sexual.

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    He didn't the courage to out right ask, so he made a pathetic 'joke' to try and get you to do it.

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    Yes, you did the right thing.

    I'd be tempted to thank him for showing that side of him this early on. On the other hand, you dodged a bullet...move on.

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    Nothing subliminal about that - he was pretty blunt with you. Of course he said he is joking, but that's only because you reacted negatively instead of sending him what he asked for. Anyway, good on you, don't second guess yourself about this kind of stuff. Sometimes, just because you feel chemistry on the date, doesn't make him a good man or dating/relationship material.

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    I guess I'll be the odd man or well woman out.... Maybe he was trying to lighten things up since you said it was all small talk type stuff and make a joke. I personally would have responded sarcastically with either a funny meme like above saying no or I would have been like you gotta earn that and you're nowhere close. And inserted a LOL as well since he did. I don't know. It might have bothered me a little but I wouldn't write him off because of it.

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    yatsue has hit on the right tone


    There is a certain grace I've yet to learn in setting boundaries in a way that gives the other person a way out. Humor is often a way to do that.

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