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Thread: Should I breakup or what else can I do?

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    Yolofish
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    Should I breakup or what else can I do?

    I'm not sure what to do with my boyfriend and am considering breaking up. I don't want to consider it but I am. Basically he is really clingy- I talked to him about it and he's much better now but still he needs me to call him whenever I have a spare moment and he wants me to take work off to see him and stuff like that and it's a little too much! Plus I have no sexual desire anymore and he said it needs to change. He says we need to be doing sexual things once a week and it's so normal so he doesn't see why it's an issue for me. But that's just me? And I've found myslef being super attracted to other guys recently as well I haven't acted on it tho don't worry!
    I do will love him and he means a lot to me but everything he does frustrates me and we have been fighting a lot about every little thing!
    Also I've not been single since I was 16 I'm only 18 now yeah, but he keeps tlaking about getting married and moving in together and and I'm like man I'm not sure I can live with this kid my whole life
    ANY ADVICE? Would be greatly appreciated xx

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    Hollyj
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    Break up!

    Your relationship sounds suffocating. Why is this guy so insecure? Has he always been like this? Does he have any life outside of you?

    You should not be taking off work to see him. Doesn't he work? How many times do you speak on a day?

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    He's quite suffocating yes, but it's only because he cares so much about me I guess. I think he is insecure like he is because he has witnessed his parents divorce quite recently. And that's the issue he doesn't have much of a life, I mean he does go to uni and he works 4 days a week but I work at nights
    We speak everyday a fair bit, we always know where the other one is and who with etc.

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    Hollyj
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    NO!!!!!!! His behavior is unhealthy, and has NOTHING to do with how much he cares for you!

    The guy is insecure, and as you can see, you cannot continue to put up with this behavior. This is who he is.

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    Hmm I guess so
    You don't reckon he'll be able to snap out of it or anything? The thing is I love the guy and since I'm all he has it would literally crush him like you have no idea

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    You're going to stay with this guy forever, because he doesn't have any friends. Don't you see that as being way off. You're not his keeper, or parent.

    Why doesn't he have any friends?

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    Not just because he doesn't but have any friends like I do genuinely love him. All his friends form school turned into druggos and he doesn't have any interests that have allowed him to gain friends. He has probably 5 or so proper friends but like they're not that close if you know what I mean

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    Why doesn't he make any effort, or find new interests?

    What does he do in his free time? Do you respect him?

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    He sort of does try and get friends and he talks to some but they're not close, he's struggled with making close friends
    He plays soccer but none of his team are his age they're all older so eh
    He plays soccer, and he's studying engineering so he is always thinking of new inventions or designing apps and

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    He should have a life outside of you. This is not healthy.

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