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Thread: I asked my boyfriend not to watch porn. Am I wrong?

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    I don't like to be with men who watch porn - personal preference and they are out there. What you need to figure out is whether or not this is a compatibility issue. If this issue is a deal breaker for you I'd suggest finding someone who holds the same opinions on the subject as you from the outset. Time will tell as to whether he will continue to watch it but from my experience, the more you try to change people the more they begin hiding things and doing it anyway. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. Honestly easier to be morally compatible from the outset. Good luck!

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    Update: Foolishly, since the consensus here was that porn is normal and he will watch anyway, I sent him a pretty long message and basically told him it's okay if he watches it and I don't want to be controlling.

    He responded that he "wasn't going to anyway" and just seemed completely over the situation and not interested in talking. I feel so embarrassed for bringing this up AGAIN and basically telling him he can watch it even though it still doesn't make me comfortable. I should have just not said anything and trusted him from the start. I feel worse now and so f*** ing stupid...

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    I think porn watching for both parties in a relationship is normal and expected. If it makes you uncomfortable that he does it, try watching with him sometime. If you like watching porn too from time to time, pick a video or something you like as well and have him watch with you. Exploring each others fantasies together can be a healthy thing. My wife and I both watch porn occasionally and we have our own little kinks. We are more aware of each others likes and dislikes because of this and it helps in the bedroom. Now don't get me wrong, there is a point when it can be unhealthy. Especially if porn becomes a substitute for the real thing and your physical relationship suffers because of it. That is a problem. But we are human and fantasy at some level is normal. Be careful trying to dictate what he watches and what he is allowed to fanasize about though. That is a really easy way to breed resentment.

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