dantheman921 Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 ok, so my current girlfriend was abused, sexually abused, and raped by her old boyfriend. we just entered year 9 (tenth grade in america) and he apparantely returns to school tommorow. i have tried everything to cheer her up but she is still depressed to this day. upon hearing the news she broke down into tears. I need help! what do i do? no one knows about the rape or abuse but me, him and her! please help me Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 You can't help her unless it is reported to her parents. Why is she keeping it from her parents? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 Btw, I have been sexually assaulted as a teenager and I do understand the feelings of shame and guilt and fear . But no one can help her unless she goes to someone she trusts and tells them what happened. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 Btw, I have been sexually assaulted as a teenager and I do understand the feelings of shame and guilt and fear . But no one can help her unless she goes to someone she trusts and tells them what happened. Can't speak for OP but my mother was raped when she was 14/15 by an older man. They were coworkers. He invited her home to hang out and when she got there, he forced her down and raped her. Her parents never found out and my mother was scared to tell them because she worried that they would be upset with her for going over to his house in the first place. My grandparents went to their graves never knowing the truth. It is really sad that shame/guilt on the victim side can keep them from seeking help. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 Can't speak for OP but my mother was raped when she was 14/15 by an older man. They were coworkers. He invited her home to hang out and when she got there, he forced her down and raped her. Her parents never found out and my mother was scared to tell them because she worried that they would be upset with her for going over to his house in the first place. My grandparents went to their graves never knowing the truth. It is really sad that shame/guilt on the victim side can keep them from seeking help. Absolutely keeps millions and millions from seeking help. But that is how these s get away with it . Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 Her parents need to know. I would also suggest a school counselor. Link to comment
DanZee Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 Legally, her parents could get a restraining on him and get him moved to another school. Link to comment
Giblesp Posted September 4, 2017 Share Posted September 4, 2017 You need to go straight to her parents and tell them. Link to comment
shellyf62 Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 You need to go straight to her parents and tell them. It isnt his responsibility to tell anyone, it is hers. If he tells them then she wont be able to trust anyone ever again. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 You need to go straight to her parents and tell them. No! She needs to tell her parents. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 It isnt his responsibility to tell anyone, it is hers. If he tells them then she wont be able to trust anyone ever again. Absolutely she's the one who should reveal it to her parents . Link to comment
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