Ass hole? Coke Addict? Narcissist? Jerk? Player?

I am so confused and upset over what went wrong to the guy I was dating I really would love if someone could knock some sense into my head so this never happens again.

Long story short, we met and a few days later he was already telling me he loves me. I never said it back because I don't operate in this manner, and 'love' is a huge word to me - and more so an action. It freaked me out every time he said it, yet he seemed so very genuine and though I saw it as a huge red flag and game spitting it kind of grew on me.

Just to put it out there - I had sex with him the first night which I have never done before - but I have been single for over a year and it took me so long to heal I was finally ready to feel closeness again. After sex the first night I was positive I would never see him again, and I was actually ok with it since I know I acted super easy - but to my surprise he texted me a few hours after he left saying how amazing I am and wanting to go on a real date.

We spent a few more times together and it was great, talked on the phone a lot in between etc. I was becoming overly happy yet I kept thinking to myself this feels too good to be true - and apparently it was...

Rewind to last Saturday he was supposed to come see me - he lives about 40 minutes away. After already making plans for him to come out - he calls me and says he can't and I should drive instead because his friend took the car. I told him no because we already made plans and to figure out and he can uber. He said ok, but in 5 min called again saying his card isn't working for uber and if I can call the uber for him and he will pay me back cash when he gets there. I agreed, and when in the uber he was calling again asking to order pizza since he is hungry and again he will pay me back cash when he gets there. I thought nothing of it, after all I liked him so it wasn't a big deal. $80 later he was at my house. He didn't bring up paying me back at all - so a few hours layer I playfully said 'don't worry about paying me back you can get breakfast tomorrow. After a great night, we woke up and he asked if I can drive him back to his house because he has to work. I said sure, but said let's eat first to which he responded he isn't hungry. Ok, well I am - so let's go eat, not driving on an empty stomach. So he proceeds to open his wallet and in this fake voice goes "oh no, somebody stole $200, I only have $5 on me" !????!!!!!!

So I drove him on an empty stomach, pretty mad. When we pulled up to the house he played dumb asking if I am ok, so I let him have it. He started saying he doesn't care about money (yeah right) and he can pay me back. I said I didn't want anything - and that I cannot teach him how to treat a woman. To which his response was " I don't have power for this (he has only been in US 4 months so his English isn't the greatest) and I have to work today and am tired. He got out of the car and slammed the door.

I didn't hear from him since, and even though he treated me like pure crap and I knew that, and it was more than obvious he is just good with words and tells you what to hear - I started to miss him. A lot. So I broke the silence and texted him. And then texted 3 more times out of pure hurt. Telling him I miss him etc.

Last night he texted me "you screwed up".....I don't see how I screwed up at all besides trusting him so I texted him a question mark.

"you messed up." He texted, "you are crazy"...

So I texted back saying " messed up how? By paying for your uber? Your pizza? Spending time with you? Making lobe to you? Letting you come over my house? Sleep next to me? Trusting in you?"

He texted back money doesn't matter and its only uber and pizza and he can pay me back" then he proceed to say how I am nervous woman (whatever that even means, language barrier) and how I make him nervous and we aren't on the same wavelength.

I am puzzled how we go from him telling me I make him so happy to this....Completely confused how he goes from someone so nice to such a complete rude ass hole. My brain doesn't even comprehend it. The way he completely screwed up then messaged me blaming me for everything and devaluing me almost screams abusive.

I know he smoke a lot of pot which is fine, but I also knew he does coke every 3 weeks or so when he parties -which I actually wasn't ok with.

So to conclude, is he a player that basically just used me, an ass hole, has coke ed up his personality he just acts bipolar. Please help me sort this out because the sweetness he showed me I am having a hard time moving on and forgetting him

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