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    Do i pay off his debt?

    Me and my partner have been together coming up a year, i belive its love and im now at this awkward situation, my partner has a gambling problem he is knee deep in debt, im financially stable and ive offered too pay off some of his debt, have i made the right decision?
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    Nope. You don't just bail him out. How do you know he won't repeat this again? Or go gamble with your money? Do you ever want your money back?

    He needs to learn.

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    Ive said, to pay it off when he can, but told him not too gamble with it or gamble too try get it baxk and hes promised he wouldnt, im only paying off the debt he owes a family member...

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    What treatment is he attending for his gambling addiction?

    Is he avoiding casinos and card rooms?

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    I say no way. He may need the help of Gamblers Anonymous to learn to control his addiction. You cant count on any addict to say they will straighten out and never backslide. He needs help to learn how to stop gambling and develop some coping mechanisms.

    If you insist on paying his relative, I hope you never expect to see that money back.

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    Yes if you want to gift him the money and don't care if he ever pays you back -you will feel no resentment.

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    Originally Posted by Unicornpuglove
    Ive said, to pay it off when he can, but told him not too gamble with it or gamble too try get it baxk and hes promised he wouldnt, im only paying off the debt he owes a family member...
    Oh, he promised? In that case you're all good.

    /sarcasm

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    The worst thing you can do it pay it off.

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    Hes not getting any help.. says he should go gamblers anonymous.. im 24 and hes 28, so i kinda feel like were still young in a way?
    I dont condome his gambling and i try to stop him where i can, i just worry its going to get more serious hes been gambling for 10 years already..

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    Originally Posted by Unicornpuglove
    Hes not getting any help.. says he should go gamblers anonymous.. im 24 and hes 28, so i kinda feel like were still young in a way?
    I dont condome his gambling and i try to stop him where i can, i just worry its going to get more serious hes been gambling for 10 years already..
    He's been gambling for 10 years but you think he's young and he'll just outgrow it???

    You cannot stop him. Only HE can stop himself with professional help.

    Yes, it will get more serious. He will lose everything and then he will lose everything you have.

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