i think i might be a lesbian

Hi. I have always been an open minded female. Never single for long and a couple of sexy female encounters too. I instantly find the same sex attractive whereas I only become attracted to a male when I develop feelings for them. When it comes to sex I wouldn't say I am turned on by men and their bodies either. I can enjoy sex ...but I find myself imagining I'm with a woman. I watch lesbian porn...and the idea of being with the same sex excited me.enormously....but am I just a normal woman who finds the idea exciting? I don't even know. My current partner is male but I have my doubts about the entire relationship. Another main factor is that I come from a fairly rural place that doesn't have a completely buzzing homosexual community. Any insight would be greatly appreciated. I think I'm asking because id hate to be That person who gets to the end of their life regretting not being true to themselves x thanks x

Is it possible you're bisexual and lean towards women?

I have no interest in having a sexual relationship with a woman. I can't imagine kissing them or hooking up or anything. The fact that you're with a guy makes me wonder if you're bi.

Is it possible you're bisexual and lean towards women?

 

I have no interest in having a sexual relationship with a woman. I can't imagine kissing them or hooking up or anything. The fact that you're with a guy makes me wonder if you're bi.

I have always said I am bisexual...and the more I delv deeper into myself I just feel like I'm into people in general lol...but for sexual attraction its definitely women. I have even imagined beng male and being with a women....but whenever I have sex I have to imagine I'm with a women to climax......naming myself bisexual has its issues also as many people claim.ita not a real thing and you are just being greedy. I am just extremely confused.

Thanks for your reply xxx

Forget the title, it doesn't matter much. But you can't stay with your boyfriend if you're not sexually attracted to him. That's not fair to play him while you figure ourself out.

Forget the title, it doesn't matter much. But you can't stay with your boyfriend if you're not sexually attracted to him. That's not fair to play him while you figure ourself out.

Thanks for your reply..i have considered this

...im so petrified of making the wrong choice lol. My current bf has taught me so much about myself and I can see myself settling with him more than anyone else ....I am attracted to him and enjoy sex with him..but there are times where during sex I fantasise about women. This is what u wasn't sure about...does this mean I'm needing to check myself lol.

Or is it normal to be this way x

You just used the word settling. That's not a good thing.

It sounds to me like you are lesbian. I think that the best thing that you could do for yourself is move to a metropolis where you would be more free to explore your options with women. chi

A recent study came out that seems to indicate that women tend to be on a wider spectrum than men.

am attracted to him and enjoy sex with him

Sounds like you're bi.

...im so petrified of making the wrong choice lol.

There is no wrong choice. I'm a completely straight female, and this is not a choice. It's just who I am. Whether you're bi, or gay, or whatever, is what you are. Don't be inclined to put a label on it, as there's nothing wrong.

The only wrong choice here would be to not be completely open with your current relationship. He needs to know these feelings, as this can impact your relationship.

I am an adventurous person, so my advice to you is to go and try to get in touch with some lesbians around you, even via chat if they are far (I don't think this is a betrayal to your relationship) and if it comes to it, you might even try to sleep with a women who finds you attractive and vise versa. This can be considered gray area (for me), if your bf is an open minded person and not the jealous type, you can discuss with him, prior, the importance of having this experience with a lady. If he is not, you might try it 1st without telling him and if the sex there is way better than doing it with a man in general, maybe you should consider opening your horizon more when it comes to relationships. You can tell him about it after and how much the experience was necessary to you. You don't want him to waste his time with you if you can find fulfillment in another relationship.. different relationship and nothing personal.

It all depends on how much the idea occupying your mind and how much you feel fulfilled in your current relationship.

I feel sort of the same way but I'm a little too young to know still but if you don't get turned on by men then in pretty sure that makes you lesbian because, the whole sexuality thing is just how you prefer your sex and love and if you don't like male sex or love then you are lesbian. That's what my anthropologist mom says.

Don't get obsessed with whether you are or you are not and instead just live your life, if you meet someone whether male or female that you like being around and they hint at something more, then go for it.

Don't put labels on yourself, you are you, that's all that matters