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    Creepy or normal?

    I wasn't quite sure where to post my question, But since my boyfriend and is have a considerably large age gap (he's older) I figured I'd go here.

    So a little back story on the relationship. We've been together for about 2 years now. He was in 2 failed marriages before me, both pretty long term, and both with what seems like some not very nice women (I've only heard his sides of the stories) He's a very kind man, and just a good person in general. Very respectful, and hard working. Always opened doors and other gentlemanly stuff. When we first started dating he had little to no idea of self worth just because of the way people had treated him in the past. But that has since gotten much better! He's still insecure and not as trusting as I'd like but I feel like that happens when you were cheated on by your ex wife (he's in therapy to help with that).Long story short he's always been very good to me, and we have a good relationship!

    I am currently staying at a friend's house for about a week, watching her dogs while she's away. Of course the usual "be careful, love and miss you!" Were said even though I'm only 15 minutes away and always available by phone. We have our own dogs so I am also frequently going back and forth between houses. Today I went to strip the dirty sheets off the bed so our cleaning lady could put new ones on, and a little blue cloth bag fell out of his pillowcase. At first I thought it was a lost sock that had gotten stuck in there but upon closer inspection I realized it had things in it. I found my favorite underwear (they were dirty, probably grabbed from my laundry basket) and a little ziploc bag with my hair (looks like he'd taken it off my brush).

    I'm mostly creeped out by this, I want to ask him about it, but I also wanted to hear from people outside the relationship. I won't ask my friends because I don't what to make them think differently about him, and make them think he's creepy or a bad person.

    Is this creepy or something normal?

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    I personally would be creeped out but it is all up to you on what you think. Some would be creeped out, some would like it. I think he has a few fettishes he hasnt told you about.

    If you feel adventurous, ask him about it.

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    ShortGirl.

    I wouldn't have an issue with the age gap.

    As for the little blue cloth bag, and this may sound wild, but would he by any chance be into witchcraft?

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    Huh... yeah it sounds like someone practicing magic. Or magik... or whatever. If anything it's probably sentimental. I would feel strange about it. I say that but my partner of 12 years keeps some of my hair in his office but he asked me for it after I cut a bunch of it off. Why not ask him what he's doing with it?

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    Originally Posted by LaHermes
    ShortGirl.

    I wouldn't have an issue with the age gap.

    As for the little blue cloth bag, and this may sound wild, but would he by any chance be into witchcraft?
    I don't have any issue with the age gap either. I don't know about withchcraft. He's never talked about it, and this is the first "weird" thing I've ever found. Believe it or not, that was my first thought when I saw the bag, and then I saw the contents and felt weirded out.

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    You can be certain he would not talk to you about any "spells". That is the whole point. You would be amazed at the number of people who go down the sorcery road (they consult individuals who are adept in these arts) to bind the "other" to them, or at least that is what they think will happen.

    You could say, sort of nonchalantly, you wondered how the little blue bag got there and watch for reaction.

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    See, thing that's weird about it, is he is very...modest, conservative when it comes to anything personal. He can't even say the word "nipple" without turning bright red, so I have a hard time thinking it's a secret fetish. The whole thing just feels weird to me.

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    Originally Posted by LaHermes
    You can be certain he would not talk to you about any "spells". That is the whole point. You would be amazed at the number of people who go down the sorcery road (they consult individuals who are adept in these arts) to bind the "other" to them, or at least that is what they think will happen.

    You could say, sort of nonchalantly, you wondered how the little blue bag got there and watch for reaction.
    Might have to give that a go then. We recently talked about future plans. I expressed my thoughts about marriage (and how I didn't see the point) and how we could remain together for as long as we wanted even without it. He seemed disappointed but thought it was because I didn't want to marry him specifically. I assured him that I didn't really want to marry anyone.

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    Originally Posted by rosephase
    Huh... yeah it sounds like someone practicing magic. Or magik... or whatever. If anything it's probably sentimental. I would feel strange about it. I say that but my partner of 12 years keeps some of my hair in his office but he asked me for it after I cut a bunch of it off. Why not ask him what he's doing with it?
    Well if he asked for it, it doesn't seem so weird. And he's slept with my shirt before when I went away fro 2 weeks, but he told me that he did it... and it didn't feel weird when I found out. This just feels so strange. I'm gonna have to ask him.

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    AS I all too often remark on here, people are a mystery.

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