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    reneneyrey

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    Who pays airfare in long-distance relationship?

    I connected with a girl living 4 states away. At 1st, I was flying there, 3 or 4 times. Then we mostry took turns, she flew here, then I flew there, etc. All along, we each paid our own airfare. Affordability was never a problem for either of us. We both have a lot saved up and we both make a good income. She got a good job in my town and has moved in with me now, and we were discussin how to share expenes. She said she didn't know one woman who would have paid their own airfare for the 2 years our relationship was long distance. I was surprised to hear that. What do y'all think?

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    I think she's wrong. I have been in 2 LDR's, and both of which, I paid for mine, and he paid for his. In each LDR, the person whose city we were in paid for most of the meals and entertainment. Because we took turns visiting, it ended up pretty even.

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    I didn't have airfare to contend with, but I never would have expected my ex to pay for my gas/mileage down to his apartment for the three years we were together, and I never would have paid for his.

    Is she just bringing this up as an aside, or is she using it to get you to pay more expenses?

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    She said she didn't know one woman who would have paid their own airfare for the 2 years our relationship was long distance
    Tell her she does now.

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    Maybe all the women she knows are spoilt little princesses...? If you can afford it, pay your own travel expenses!

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    She should have been responsible for all of her own airfare.

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    I've never been in an LDR, but I would be uncomfortable having him pay for me.

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    Thanks all. That's what I thought. Basically, she just doesn't like spending money.

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    She is not your dependent, nor your child so she is responsible for her own air fare.

    If she didn't have a good job and couldn't afford it, where as you could, I could see you making up with difference so it's equitable at times.
    It shouldn't be a burden to one if it's easy for the other and no one should feel entitled.

    But that isn't the case here.
    She pays her way.

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    I also believe in financial equality in same-city dating, unless there is a huge income disparity. I believe in trading picking up checks and splitting vacations and other expenses.

    So my question is: Is there a huge income disparity? Why do you think she thinks you should pick up all expenses?

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