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    Am i doing this right

    SO PRIOR TO MY CHILD'S FATHER AND I FALLING OUT. I HAD PURCHASED HIM SOME FATHER'S DAY GIFTS. HE HAD ALSO ASKED ME TO PURCHASE HIM A CURL BAR AND HE WOULD GIVE ME THE MONEY. I PURCHASED IT, BUT IT WAS NOT THE ONE HE WANTED. I TOLD HIM TO FIGURE OUT THE ONE HE WANTED BEFORE I SENT IT BACK. AFTER THAT IS WHEN HE CLEARLY SHOWED HIS ANGER FOR ME TALKING WITH OTHER DUDES AND SAID TO KEEP IT ABOUT OUR DAUGHTER. SO TODAY HE ASKED ME DID I SENT THE CURL BAR BACK AND WAS I GOING TO ORDER ANOTHER ONE. SO I SAID NO TO BOTH. i told him he can have the one i had already purchased but i wasn't sending it back or purchasing another. I already gave him his father's day gifts etc, but I'm done making moves for him at his convenience whenever he feels. I just want to make sure I went about this the right way since he called me "foul" for going back on my word.

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    Why doesn't he order it himself?

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    Quote Originally Posted by hollyj [Register to see the link]
    why doesn't he order it himself?
    i have no idea. He has a card, he claims he was gonna give me the money once i ordered it, now he's making a big deal of it saying i'm switching up

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    You don't need this crap.

    Let him be responsible for all of his own purchases.

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    ugh. Just drop it. Take it as money spent to get this dude out of your life. You don't have to do anything for him any more. That is the nice thing about exs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hollyj [Register to see the link]
    You don't need this crap.

    Let him be responsible for all of his own purchases.
    I guess it just makes me feel some type of way that I have to do this because i'm not used to telling him no.

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    That's what i did. I haven't been lurking for things on social media or any of that. We were together 7 years. I have not been with anyone since then and it's just tough to tell him no when I'd always tell him yes

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    Quote Originally Posted by bsme [Register to see the link]
    I guess it just makes me feel some type of way that I have to do this because i'm not used to telling him no.
    He probably knows that and is pushing you to still do things for him. Now is the time to start get used to telling this guy no. Your probably going to have to do it a lot in the future if he stays in your child's life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bsme [Register to see the link]
    I guess it just makes me feel some type of way that I have to do this because i'm not used to telling him no.
    Good time to start.

    He is taking advantage of this fact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rosephase [Register to see the link]
    He probably knows that and is pushing you to still do things for him. Now is the time to start get used to telling this guy no. Your probably going to have to do it a lot in the future if he stays in your child's life.
    I am imagine so. I felt good telling him no this time. just trying to get back to who I really am and regain my strength

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