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    Boyfriend of 1 year dont want to spend time with me or as a family

    My boyfriend works Wednesday through Friday 3-11 and weekends 7-3 and off every Monday and Tuesday when he's off he never wants to go any where and do anything he just wants to stay home and sleep and play video games and talk to his friends.We have a 3 month old and and a 2 year old and we never get to do anything as a family.Every time we have to get out of the house and pay bills or go to the store he rushes me to get done because he wants to go home and relax and do nothing.I don't know if I should let him go or not im really fed up and tired of sitting at home every day after work doing nothing while he's at work and doing nothing on his days off as well he knows this but won't do nothing to change anything.He wasnt like this when we first got together.I don't even feel close to him anymore and our sex life has went down the drain when he comes in from work at night he goes to sleep that's it we have no conversation hardly at night about anything.He says he's tired all the time but honestly he gets more sleep than me he sleeps all day when he works night shift I get up all during the night with our 2 month old but according to him I get more sleep than him.I work during the week 9 to when ever I get off usually 5 or 6 and weekends 10 to when ever I get two days off a week some times one.I don't know if he's really tired or just don't want to do anything with me anymore I just feel like our relationship is boring but he does nothing to Change anything he just rather be home and I rather be out doing something I don't like to Sit around all the time.I can't drive I don't know how and he won't let me get my liscence because he's afraid I will leave him because of how every thing is going.Can someone give me advice on what to do?

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    Girl, go get your license! He should be supportive of you!

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    Yes take driving lessons and get your licence then get a new home for you and your kids. Leave Sleeping Beauty on his own.

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    How in the world does he not "let you" get a license? If he legit is denying you straight up freedom, then I say it's time to skidattle.

    As for him being tired, of course he is. He's constantly switching between 2nd shift and 3rd shift. Studies show that alone leads to an early grave. It's very taxing on the body. Is he also taking care of the kid during "1st shift" hours while you work? If so, just add that to the tally. It's not just about the number of hours he and you comparitively get to sleep.

    What line of work is he in? Will he ever get the seniority to transfer to first shift?

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    no he don't take care of his kid he complains when I want him to feed him during the night he lets his dad take care of him while I work and he sleeps all day and he works 1
    St and 2nd shift not 3rd.He was working 1st only and they chamged it now they won't let him have 1st shift only back.

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    This sounds very one-sided, you must be exhausted!!!!!

    Get your licence and move on, he will get worse.

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    I see you are a very young couple with two young children. You both work - and he probably is genuinely exhausted and overwhelmed.
    Is he a good partner and father apart from this one issue of you wanting to spend more time with him out as a couple and as a family?

    The license thing, well that's just silly, it's simply not his decision or not. And it would be smart for you to do that anyways, this way you can more easily run errands with the kids and get around, also easier for you to arrange to see your friends and in the case of minor or major emergencies with the kids when he's not home ( even something as simple as a trip to the doctor).

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    I set up couples counseling a few weeks ago for the 19 he said he would go now he backed out and said he had to work.He could of asked for the day off he's supose to be off on Mondays anyway but he didn't.I got the day off especially for that so now I have to cancel it tomorrow.

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    He yells at my 2 yr old because he wakes him up at times while he's asleep he yells at him to go own and get out of the bedroom.

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    He says I get mad over little stupid things I could be seriously mad about something and he will say its stupid but it's not stupid to me it's a big deal.

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