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    She's attractive, but boring

    So I'm talking to a girl that I am Super attracted to. We laugh and joke here and there for the most part, but she overall is boring as hell. Been on a few dates and they go decently enough, she always says she had fun, always is ready to hang out again...but when we do I feel like I have to lead conversations. I'm not a super talkative person but I can fake it pretty well...shr answers my questions and all but, and will have random follow up questions, but again it's me doing all the work I feel. On top of that she has no sense of adventure...in order to have a little more fun on our dates I suggested we go to the gun range, she came but would barely shoot, suggested me go jetskiing, said she would never do that, there have been a few more things she said she just won't do and I'm just sitting there like....oooook. Problem is I'm attracted as hell to her physically, just don't have much in common I guess which sucks. I feel like we have better conversations via text than in person but how can you get anywhere with that type of dynamic?

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    You both are not compatible in your eyes. Let her down easy and go date someone more in line with what you are looking for. There are plenty of adventure girls out there, go find yourself one of those.

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    It's not like she's the only girl in the world who you could be super attracted to. Go find one who you can have a great time with.

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    Do you only associate with her because she's good looking? That's very shallow of you if it's the truth. Find someone else.

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    Find an out doors kind of girl. Lots out there.

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    There are plenty of super hot super attractive women who are also adventurous and have more of a personality that you would actually get along with better. Why on earth would you settle for less. This is a total no brainer - stop wasting time on this chic so you can spend that time finding someone who actually rocks your world in every respect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by melancholy123 [Register to see the link]
    Do you only associate with her because she's good looking? That's very shallow of you if it's the truth. Find someone else.
    Is it so wrong to be shallow sometimes. Recently out of a 5 year relationship so not looking for anything serious by any means which she is aware of...isnt this the little bit of time I am "allowed" to be shallow? Ehh either way I think I am going to take everyone's advice...hell boredom never been a friend of mine let me tell you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RonChalant [Register to see the link]
    Is it so wrong to be shallow sometimes. Recently out of a 5 year relationship so not looking for anything serious by any means which she is aware of...isnt this the little bit of time I am "allowed" to be shallow? Ehh either way I think I am going to take everyone's advice...hell boredom never been a friend of mine let me tell you.
    lol....flings are supposed to be fun, not work man......

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancingFool [Register to see the link]
    lol....flings are supposed to be fun, not work man......
    Very true, you just hit the nail on the head...thanks for that

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    Quote Originally Posted by RonChalant [Register to see the link]
    So I'm talking to a girl that I am Super attracted to. We laugh and joke here and there for the most part, but she overall is boring as hell. Been on a few dates and they go decently enough, she always says she had fun, always is ready to hang out again...but when we do I feel like I have to lead conversations. I'm not a super talkative person but I can fake it pretty well...shr answers my questions and all but, and will have random follow up questions, but again it's me doing all the work I feel. On top of that she has no sense of adventure...in order to have a little more fun on our dates I suggested we go to the gun range, she came but would barely shoot, suggested me go jetskiing, said she would never do that, there have been a few more things she said she just won't do and I'm just sitting there like....oooook. Problem is I'm attracted as hell to her physically, just don't have much in common I guess which sucks. I feel like we have better conversations via text than in person but how can you get anywhere with that type of dynamic?
    So, she does not enjoy the gun range - don't know many people who would - and jet skiing. How about coming up with something both parties can enjoy. Sounds like it is all about your interests.

    You are way too shallow for her. I feel sorry for her, to be dating someone like you. Do her a favor and lose her number.

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