Should I think this is fishy?

Started talking to a guy through an online dating site (one you pay to interact, not Tinder or POF). We got a couple messages in ( you know the what's your favorite movie, and what do you like to eat ones) and he tells me he's currently deployed, but will be home in 2 months, and looking for someone that's looking for someone that is looking for something serious (it's a site marketed to people wanting to get married, so that's assumed). Seems odd he wasn't up front about it? Then again I was played by a guy I was dating that I had known forever that found someone else while deployed and broke up with me two weeks before he came home, so I may be biased. Anyone else think it could be a guy just trying to play me and to back away?

I don't personally find it fishy. I'm sure a lot of service members use OLD to find partners.

If you're that worried, just ask him to hit you up when he's back in the country. Doing the whole pen pal thing is tedious enough without being all kinds of anxious about it.

I am sure they do, but it's also apparently the latest way to catfish/scam people by pulling at those heart strings.

Playing you how? You are just talking to some guy you've never even met that you may or may not meet at some point in the future. You have no obligations here to him and are free to stop talking to him, keep talking to others, going out on other dates, etc., as you wish. You might still be around in two months to meet up with him or you might have met someone else and moved on. I mean you are fully in control of what you are doing here. My only suggestion is don't get overly involved online with some guy you've never met so you don't get into a false sense of connection. I mean you could meet face to face and be totally not into him. So take it all with a giant grain of salt.

There is a catfish scam of posing to be a military man who needs money for one reason or another. Just be aware of that. If he asks for money, it is a catfish. chi

See, I've read that, and while he could be genuine, I don't want to waste much time on a catfish/scam.

See, I've read that, and while he could be genuine, I don't want to waste much time on a catfish/scam.

Anyone online could be a catfish. Just talk when you want, and insist on meeting as soon as he's back. If he doesn't want to, cut ties

I think that you have to becareful online. But I don't think at this point it is fishy. I think you should have him contact you once he returns home.

I think it is fairly simple to insure you don't get scammed. Don't give any money to someone online ever. When they ask you for money just block and move on.

There are lots of military scams where the person is deployed, let me guess in Nigeria?

They say they are coming home in two months and would like to marry you and spend their life with you and love you without even having met you. Then in two weeks of talking they will run into a financial crisis. In that time frame they will ask you for money. In order to get home they need that money.

I've read about it, it's on every dating site even paid ones.

This guy will start off telling you how beautiful you are, he will be widowed or divorced. He will have some sad story, and that's why he is looking for love. He will say all the right things and not mind if you have any red flags yourself.

Basically you could tell him you are a drugged out stripper with five kids and no teeth and he will say "Great, where do I sign up?"

This is a scam in Nigeria! They use deceased pictures of fallen soldiers.

Let me guess he can't skype or call?

Soldiers deployed can Skype by the way.

Ask him for his official military email. He is allowed to give it out. If he doesn't say he can, he is lying.

Lisa

There is a site explaining more

See, I've read that, and while he could be genuine, I don't want to waste much time on a catfish/scam.

Then don't waste time. Tell him you look forward to being in touch once he returns home and can meet in person.

I checked out the websites for scams. And while he has none of the major signs yet, I know what to look for. He's not in Africa, but rather the Middle East and has no pics of him in uniform posted. Thus far he's just giving me cheesy bar pick up lines, which I just deflect as I am never swayed by those, and for my number (which I told him I don't give out till I get to know the person, better to keep the anonymity through the site for a while until I see how this plays out)

Since he is not going to be back for months and giving you cheesy bar pick up lines why bother being in contact even if it is not a scam? Do you really want to meet someone who would address a stranger in that way?