Esther92 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Hi everybody! I am new here. I am a 24 years old girl with anxiety and I am dating a very nice man. We had 3 dates (tomorrow will be the fourth). I have never had a boyfriend before, never been kissed etc...he is very nice and understanding. But I am scared. First of all, I love being single. Second, I always had/have celebrity crushes. I know it sounds immature. These crushes are perfect of course, and they won't hug me and kiss me. Never. But fantasizing about it is so safe and good. And I like fantasizing and daydreaming about them. It's better than reality. And I am so scared that my expectations are really high and I won't be able to love somebody else, who doesn't look/sound like my celebrity crushes. I know I have to live in the reality. But giving up this dream world is scary, my fantasies are always better. Maybe I have fantasized so much that I will be unable to live in the reality. Now I have to give up these crushes, my single life is changing and it makes me anxious. I told this man about my anxiety and he accepts it. I have a therapist, but I feel ashamed to talk about this problem. Of course I should choose a real man and not an imaginary man. It is so embarrassing. I have to grow up. When I am with this man, I feel good, but when I am alone with my thoughts, I am full of with doubts and anxiety. Thank you for reading it! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 I suggest you discuss this with your therapist, if you want to have a future with a man. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 I suggest you discuss this with your therapist, if you want to have a future with a man. I second this post. Link to comment
Jibralta Posted May 27, 2017 Share Posted May 27, 2017 Talk to your therapist about it. It's probably not as big a deal as you think it is. You may do it because you're not ready for a commitment. Which is fine. But when you are ready, this type of fantasizing will get in your way. Link to comment
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