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Thread: ❌Did i just get stood up????❌

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    Angry ❌Did i just get stood up????❌

    A few weeks ago this guy and i started texting. It was a pretty instant interest right from the start, on both ends. He kept telling me how interesting i am and how he wanted to know more about me. So the feelings were mutual on continuing to get to know each other. We even spoke on the phone a few times. Then it got to the point of wanting to meet in person. We arranged a date, and that day came, but at the last minute he was unable to meet up. He acted very disappointed about not being able to meet and he seemed determined to plan another day, thats why I dont believe he purposely blew me off. So we plan another day. Well actually he brings up two seperate days, Monday or Tuesday. I said either day works for me so it doesnt matter and he said okay. So Sunday night roles around and i text him to make sure we are still able to meet Monday and he says yes and he specifies a time. Monday comes and i begin to get myself ready, expecting a text from him or something telling me he is on his way. He lives an hour away from me so i figured he was just driving when i never got a text. I decided not to text him though, because we had already talked, everything was still on from what we talked about the night before. Well i wait all day and i still dont get a text. Then tuesday comes and by then i expect to get a text by then but i didnt. Now it is Friday of the same week, and we still havent spoke. But he is active on social media, he likes my instagram posts and he views my snapchat stories. So what is the issue? Should i text him and pretend like he DIDNT just blow me off? Im curious to know what happened but i dont want to sound like I'm upset about it. Im just confused as to why i havent heard from him for a week. Any advice on how i should go about texting him?

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    Do not text him, and yes you SHOULD be upset that he stood you up and didn't even bother to apologize! Why on earth would you pretend he didn't blow you off, when he did? Do you want to teach him that it's ok to treat you like nothing, and that you're desperate enough to still chase him afterwards? No girl...block him on social media and tell yourself "next"!

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    So Sunday night roles around and i text him to make sure we are still able to meet Monday and he says yes and he specifies a time. Monday comes and i begin to get myself ready, expecting a text from him or something telling me he is on his way. He lives an hour away from me so i figured he was just driving when i never got a text

    So, you just didn't go?
    Why did you feel you needed so much reassurance? You confirmed the night before, correct?
    By the looks of it, you stood him up.

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    Maybe he's a catfish

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    I did NOT stand him up. I wasnt going to go unless he texted me saying he was on his way.

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    We snapchat all the time though lmao im positive hes not.

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    Hi there. Just so I understand... had you set a time and a place the night before?

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    Quote Originally Posted by LolaMilbank [Register to see the link]
    I did NOT stand him up. I wasnt going to go unless he texted me saying he was on his way.
    But he can't read your mind.
    If that's the conditions you needed in order to go, then that was your choice. Be ok with it.

    It doesn't mean he did anything wrong. For all you know he made the hour drive to find out you didn't bother to show up after you both confirmed it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raggie [Register to see the link]
    Hi there. Just so I understand... had you set a time and a place the night before?
    Yes i texted him Sunday night to confirm that we were hanging out the next day which was Monday. He said yes and he gave me a plan of what he was doing. Something like, "yeah Monday works, ive just got to stop at my parents house in the morning and I'll head your way during the afternoon." and i said okay that sounds great.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raggie [Register to see the link]
    Hi there. Just so I understand... had you set a time and a place the night before?
    Quote Originally Posted by reinventmyself [Register to see the link]
    But he can't read your mind.
    If that's the conditions you needed in order to go, then that was your choice. Be ok with it.

    It doesn't mean he did anything wrong. For all you know he made the hour drive to find out you didn't bother to show up after you both confirmed it.
    But it seems like i would have heard from him by now. I know for a fact he did not drive all the way here.

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