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    LDR breakup nc for a couple days , her bday is today , help !

    My love left me about a week ago claiming the distance was too much for her after a year and a half with ldr being majority of the relationship (about a year of it) I lost myself inside of the relationship and was only worried about her and it was unhealthy for the both of us . It brought out my insecurities and prior trust issues and it caused her to grow unhappy with me . I loved her with all my heart and still feel she's the best I've ever had . I was her first so I know she's suffering from the grass is greener syndrome but ik it doesn't get any better than this . I feel as if she forgot how we made each other feel because I hadn't been able to visit her for roughly 8 months and I was planning a surprise trip later this month lol . So after she left me I dedicated myself to self improvement and being the guy she fell for in the first place not the loser she felt she was stuck with. Anyway I've had nc for a couple days now , I've reconnected with friends , started being active again with running and exercising , working on my real estate license etc etc . I have every intention on winning her back because like I said she was the best (I don't know how spirtitual any of you are but I'd consider her my twin flame) so my question is , today is her bday and Ive been back and forth with myself over the idea of wishing her a good one , should I break contact to tell her ?

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    Unless she asked you to not contact her, wishing her Happy Birthday is a nice thing. Just don't put your hopes up too high over what kind of reaction you might get.
    Basically, wish her Happy Birthday with no expectations.

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    It's ok. Keep it upbeat, brief and about her, don't mention things about you or reminisce etc..

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    Yes wish her happy birthday. You've done well to last 8 months apart so obviously have something holding you together. Give her time. It may still be worth that visit. Is it your job that makes you long distance? Why 8 months without seeing each other?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kudos [Register to see the link]
    Yes wish her happy birthday. You've done well to last 8 months apart so obviously have something holding you together. Give her time. It may still be worth that visit. Is it your job that makes you long distance? Why 8 months without seeing each other?
    I was planning on still going as i have a lot of friends i was planning on seeing anyway and i had to move back with family , the reason its been so long , my former employer sold his business and moved to israel so moneys been a little tight as i tried to find another source of income

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    So I told her and we exchanged I love you's and stuff and I left it at that , I went on her twitter and she tweeted haven't been this happy in a long time the other day and someone (new guy) bought her flowers... I'm losing it a little . This is my girl and I hate the thought of someone else having her because i know I can do better . Is this just the excitement of her having someone to touch again ? Should I be worried ? Did I lose her ?

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    This is why she broke up citing the LDR was not working. She found a local guy. Go complete no contact no ilys etc.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lost95 [Register to see the link]
    I went on her twitter and she tweeted haven't been this happy in a long time the other day and someone (new guy) bought her flowers...

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    Wiseman2 I knew that from the time she left , I called her on it and she insisted , trying not hurt my feelings but ik better. I just can't lose her like that , for my trip...should I try and reconnect with her ? I want this girl in my life . I've been around and no one ...no one had me like she does .

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    Idk if typing your name alerts you or not

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    If you were in a LDR and she started pulling away and now has another guy it sounds too late. If there is any shot it would most likely be after she has had another relationship or two. I would stay NC. I am really sorry but it sounds like that ship has sailed.

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