He wants me to get off on another man.

Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 5 years. He has been having cuckold fantasies about me which I strongly disagree on.

Today he asked me to watch porn of men. He wants me to get off on another man.

I don't find this normal, especially in a relationship I love him very much but it really affects me.

Any advice please.

What is your sex life like otherwise? Have you known about this for 5 yrs or is it a new development? You need to tell him that this fantasy doesn't work for you and it's a turn off.

5 years. He has been having cuckold fantasies about me which I strongly disagree on.

Perhaps he is only now trusting you with his sexual fantasies. If it's not something you're into, you'll just have to simply tell him that it's not your thing.

I enjoy our sex life, only recently he said it's boring and he wants to spice it up. But the ideas he's coming up with is roleplay that involve another man threesum?. He wanted me to try humiliatiion over text and the role play I did it for him. But he's getting off on the fact another man can please me. I've know about the cuckold problem for 3 years. I use to write messages for him he told me it would stop. Last week he brought it up and told me to do cuckold messages or somebody. I wrote him messages he asked for a message about my ex I sent him the message and he said he was put off with the cuckold now he's wanting me to watch porn and cum for another man and it turns him on.

I've tried telling him I don't like it. But he keeps going on about it. He keeps asking me to do it

Whatever floats your boat. But if you don't want to take part in it, he can either get over it or end it. Because if he is this pushy will a "no" even help? Doesn't sound like he wants you both to be in a monogamous relationship. If it is an absolute "no" that might be a deal breaker.

So now that this has escalated, it's becoming an actual difference of sexual values. If he doesn't respect your boundaries in the bedroom now, after 5 years, I wonder what else about you will put him off.

Ultimately it'll be up to you as to whether or not you want this to continue.

It sounds like you are sexually incompatible but go along with it to keep him around.

I enjoy our sex life. I've know about the cuckold problem for 3 years. he's wanting me to watch porn and cum for another man and it turns him on.

I have asked him to stop it, but he keeps bringing it up. I do keep saying no.

I've tried to go along with it, but I tell him it hurts me he doesn't seem to care

Thank you for your advice I really appreciate it.

Tell him you're not doing it again and then DONT do it again. Pretty simple.

I hate to say it but you sound totally incompatible sexually. He has been hiding this but if he won't let it go then he want let it go. If he thinks this is the next step in sexual progression then you won't change his mind. I personally think that behavior is implicative of a lot of personal issues but to each his own. I would not be down to see my lady with another. It honestly would warp my view of a person's ability to be in a relationship that wants that. Sorry to hear it.

I've tried to go along with it, but I tell him it hurts me he doesn't seem to care

I would be leery of being in a relationship with someone who so readily dismisses your feelings.

Maybe meet him halfway cut holes in the closet door. Have him go inside and look out. That will at least get him out of your hair. Everyone has fantasies not all of them are compatible with your partner that's why they stay just that fantasies. Good luck don't do anything you don't want to do.

Is thing an S and M thing you two have going? You've known about this for YEARS yet complain "it hurts" and still stay together.

I've tried to go along with it, but I tell him it hurts me he doesn't seem to care

I love him. I never bring it up and it brings it up from nowhere again. I try to help him to forget about it but I don't think it is enough.

Thank you everybody for your advice

Maybe meet him halfway cut holes in the closet door. Have him go inside and look out. That will at least get him out of your hair. Everyone has fantasies not all of them are compatible with your partner that's why they stay just that fantasies. Good luck don't do anything you don't want to do.

Bahaha! Sorry, I wasn't prepared to read this!

I would be leery of being in a relationship with someone who so readily dismisses your feelings.

This will only get worse. If he doesn't care about how you feel....it's time to go. Trust me. I've been there.

I try to help him to forget about it but I don't think it is enough.

He doesn't need "help to forget about it", he's an adult. You need to stand up for yourself, or tell him to hit the road.

If he can't drop it then you either need to start taking one (or many from the sound of it) for the team or leave.