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    "I NEED your Support Thread!" Post here when you need to cry or vent

    I often need a place to vent or cry and a place to check back without hunting down my posts. I consider forum this a safe place to come when I need shoulder to cry on or to vent. I don't always need advice but just a pat of encouragement to keep going. Please share your vents and tears here too. I promise i will be supportive.

    my story....


    My ex and i were together a year. we met when we were both separated. we were/are going through very nasty divorces. he hit a wave of significant financial issues due to his divorce. he got very depressed...didn't want to drag me through it. didn't feel he could consistently provide for me. didn't feel he deserved someone as incredible as me.

    Still we tried to make it work. he got very depressed...pulled away. we eventually broke up. now i too am going through similar financial stresses due to my divorce. i am also depressed.

    When he was going through his stuff...i truly thought we could make it work. However, now that i am dealing with the same thing, i know i would have responded the same way he did. i just have broken down. i am not myself anymore.

    He is doing a little better now and he is having a fling with the receptionist at his job. i found that out 2 weeks ago while i was still holding hope in my heart that when things settle we would eventually reconcile.


    -----I am such a mess since my break and since starting NC. I am considering today done and over. This sunny day reminds me so much of days he and i would call each other and decide to skip work for the afternoon and just have fun. We were so happy together. I can't focus ANYMORE today! i am leaving work early. i am calling it a day. i just can't do it today. i'm going home, pour myself a drink, get in bed and work on my book. and probably cry....alot.

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    You sound really down and depressed, have you considered therapy or counselling to gain some perspective?

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    First off, this thread was here right when I needed it today. So, thanks!

    Originally Posted by Dominique
    However, now that i am dealing with the same thing, i know i would have responded the same way he did. i just have broken down. i am not myself anymore.
    I am dealing with the rollercoaster of emotions that my ex is experiencing while he is dealing with depression--I'm along for the ride. We were headed toward reconciliation, but now he feels like he just can't deal with the relationship because he is barely managing himself. I am trying so hard to be accepting and empathetic, but it is difficult for me at times because I truly just can't put myself in his shoes. You are really walking in the shoes of your ex now, and I'm so sorry to hear that. I hate to hear that you have to go through those things, but I'm glad that you are recognizing it. Do what you can to take care of yourself. You yourself know that you likely aren't in a position to be with him right now, so try not to focus too much on the fling. When you are in a better place, you both decide if a relationship between you is right.

    Again, thanks for this thread. I couldn't deal with today either

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    [QUOTE=thinkin2much;6805116]First off, this thread was here right when I needed it today. So, thanks!



    I am dealing with the rollercoaster of emotions that my ex is experiencing while he is dealing with depression--I'm along for the ride. We were headed toward reconciliation, but now he feels like he just can't deal with the relationship because he is barely managing himself. I am trying so hard to be accepting and empathetic, but it is difficult for me at times because I truly just can't put myself in his shoes. You are really walking in the shoes of your ex now, and I'm so sorry to hear that. I hate to hear that you have to go through those things, but I'm glad that you are recognizing it. Do what you can to take care of yourself. You yourself know that you likely aren't in a position to be with him right now, so try not to focus too much on the fling. When you are in a better place, you both decide if a relationship between you is right.

    Again, thanks for this thread. I couldn't deal with today either

    I'm sorry you are dealing with a depressed partner. It's no fun.

    Sending you love and light.

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    I am literally going through the same thing. I could have written your post, D. My boyfriend got so depressed after going to court with his ex and him feeling like he can't take on me and my kids right now and that he can't give me the life I want.. Financial problems. He said it's all just too much for him. It is so SO hard. I have to believe and trust that there is a reason God / universe or whatever / is taking him out of my life and there is a better plan.
    I can't see what it is right now because I'm still so so hurt. I'm grieving with you.

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    Originally Posted by Kindergirl
    I am literally going through the same thing. I could have written your post, D. My boyfriend got so depressed after going to court with his ex and him feeling like he can't take on me and my kids right now and that he can't give me the life I want.. Financial problems. He said it's all just too much for him. It is so SO hard. I have to believe and trust that there is a reason God / universe or whatever / is taking him out of my life and there is a better plan.
    I can't see what it is right now because I'm still so so hurt. I'm grieving with you.
    It's awful. I feel your pain. And you are correct.... it is SO HARD.

    I'm sorry u are hurting. I wish I could take the pain away and blink and make it better for you. I really do. Sending you a (((hug))

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    Originally Posted by melancholy123
    You sound really down and depressed, have you considered therapy or counselling to gain some perspective?
    I am. Please understand that while I am coping with the loss of my soulmate, I am also going through a viscous divorce and working in a hostile environment at a job I can't quit right now because I have to support my child and the income is essential.

    Counsel has helped me get out of bed. Two months ago... I was in bed and couldn't leave the house. I lost 27lbs in less than two months because I couldn't eat. I am doing much better than I seem.

    This is a process. I am doing the best I can. Counsel helped me find this forum and encouraged me to come out of my shell and share with others. I was against it, but she was right. It has helped.

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    I couldn't sleep last night again and when I did, I woke up crying. I decided to go in late to work today and listen to some positive youtube before I go.

    This empty space where he used to lie is excruciating.

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    Originally Posted by Dominique
    I couldn't sleep last night again and when I did, I woke up crying. I decided to go in late to work today and listen to some positive youtube before I go.

    This empty space where he used to lie is excruciating.
    It's tough, you'll make it!

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    Today I tried my best to focus on other things. I didn't always succeed.

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