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Thread: Found a guy sending my girlfriend inappropriate pictures. Take a step back?

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    Found a guy sending my girlfriend inappropriate pictures. Take a step back?

    I've posted on here before about my girlfriend about wanting to go to some parties and I was insecure about that. I received excellent feedback and followed the advice I received. Everything is okay.

    But today, we were hanging out and I was switching music tracks through her phone which was connected to Bluetooth. As I was doing this, she received a Snapchat picture from some guy, I didn't open it, but I clicked on it to see the previous convo between them two.

    His previous message said "here's something special for your birthday (;" and there was a picture that had been opened by my girlfriend which was not visible to me. (That's how Snapchat works). I laughed and asked her who this guy was and she took the phone out of my hands and said "just an old friend" and I just gave her a weird look. Eventually after me acting kind of quiet for the next few minutes she told me that it was a guy from about 4 years ago who recently confessed to her that he likes her. And as far as I've known, he's sent her 2 innapropriate pics.

    There's also another guy who she said she never responds to but he's also always doing the same thing. She told me about him a couple months ago. But she says that she's asked him to please stop and he doesn't listen. She thinks he just sends them out to multiple guys.

    I told her I didn't feel too good on the fact that she's getting those types of pictures. I want to think that she's entertaining these guys back, which is why they keep coming back. I told her that it's best if we took a step back. She declined and we argued for a bit and she basically promised me that she isn't responding to these guys.

    I never asked her to block them but isn't that what she should be doing? At the end, we had some good sex and she told me that she's not entertaining any other guys whether she's receiving messages from them or not. I don't know what to believe.

    The recent guy from today, I think, had kissing emoji next to his name. Snapchat puts emojis next to peoples names ranking them on how many times you have snap chatted back and forth. A kissy face emoji I believe is a few times back and forth on pictures. I just don't know what to do from here. Please tell me what you guys would do.

    Today I left her place on good terms. We're still technically in a relationship.

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    Show her how the privacy settings and block and delete features work. Oh wait, she doesn't want to do that.

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    you're right, she should have blocked them. so i too wouldn't be asking her to block them.

    i would conclude i have all the info i need to make my decision. men send her innapropriate texts and she does nothing to stop it, because she isn't bothered by it.

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    I can't remember how long you said you guys have been together, but if it's been longer than a few months, I'd tell her to figure out where appropriate relationship boundaries are right now or get lost.

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    What do you mean by inappropriate pictures? Are these guys with their shirts off? Or are they sending her pictures of their penises? Because if she hasn't blocked them for sending c*ck pics then something is up.

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    Originally Posted by indea08
    I can't remember how long you said you guys have been together, but if it's been longer than a few months, I'd tell her to figure out where appropriate relationship boundaries are right now or get lost.
    It's only been 2 months. I don't want to have to "tell" her anything. Because if I say something like you suggested, I know she'll listen. But it will be because I told her to, not because she used her own common sense. And I would hate to put a sense of pressure on her throughout the rest of the relationship. However long that may be.

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    Originally Posted by rosephase
    What do you mean by inappropriate pictures? Are these guys with their shirts off? Or are they sending her pictures of their penises? Because if she hasn't blocked them for sending c*ck pics then something is up.
    Yea they're pics. She said she doesn't think anything of them.

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    Originally Posted by RainyCoast
    you're right, she should have blocked them. so i too wouldn't be asking her to block them.

    i would conclude i have all the info i need to make my decision. men send her innapropriate texts and she does nothing to stop it, because she isn't bothered by it.
    She like the attention and is disrespecting you. Her attention seeking is more important than you, and she is emotionally cheating.

    Have some respect for yourself and end this.

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    Good God! Only two months and you're having all of here issues!!!

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    If you don't say something then you literally look like a doormat. There's a difference between being controlling and standing up for yourself. I mean, it should be pretty clear that being in a relationship means that d*ck pics are not okay. Apparently she's not too worried about being respectful to you.

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