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    I believe the real issue is not with him watching porn, but is with your insecurity.

    I agree with many of the members here in saying you need to explain your feelings to him about it. His reaction will determine whether or not he is worth your time. If he reacts positively and says he will try to stop, then you're OK. If he reacts negatively, then he doesn't care about it makes you feel.

    Either way - I would stress the importance of making strides to improving your self-esteem and lowering your insecurity. That is where your strength will lie when deeper issues arise.

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    What if he hired live escorts rather than just masturbated to porn now that he's got the privacy of a company paid hotel?
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    I'm thinking is he will watch those can girls again which I would probably never find out but it would always be in my head to the point of I don't know of the relationship would survive for his sake and mine.

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    Originally Posted by Ella5
    To me I feel it is cheating.
    Let me just clear this up for you...its not cheating

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    Only going to therapy and getting in shape and getting better nutrition and improving your confidence will help this, not policing him.

    You are trying to fix yourself by trying to fix him.

    And yes that's controlling and furthermore it never fixes the real problem with your self esteem.
    Originally Posted by Ella5
    All.that goes on is my head is why am I not good enough , proably because I have next to no boobs and I'm not exactly skinny like these lovely looking people in porn

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    Have you tried watching porn together?

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    You don't need to live up to the girls in the porno movies. Some of them have a miserable time filming them, and they are controlled by what they eat and get fake boobs. It's all smoke and mirrors.

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    Everyone says its okay for men to watch porn and its normal blah blah blah. But what they dont understand is men will start choosing porn over real sex. If this is not your issue if he is still having sex with you dont worry about it. The day he chooses porn over you then you have a problem.

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    I get what you're saying as I have had insecurity issues in the past. I think if he is away from you and a bit horny, why not masturbate? If it is cheating in your eyes, then you are going to struggle to find someone who doesn't watch a little porn now and then or "fly solo" sometimes. Do you never look at porn or other guys? We're all human. If it was affecting your sex life or he was choosing porn over you, that would be a different story. Yeah, its not nice, but guys do it. And girls.

    Focus on yourself and your own improvements and confidence.

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