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    Angry Ex unblocks me from FB to show he is married

    Should I not be upset if my ex unblocks me from facebook to show he is married? Why would someone do that. He had to know I'd be sensitive. Our last communication was me apologizing for being mean to him when he refused to take me back. He accepted but at the end of the email stated he didn't want any kind of contact. I complied and we blocked each other on FB. Months later in a moment of weakness, I unblocked him not expecting anything and low and behold he had unblocked me too and was married with wedding pictures all over the screen. It was like being stabbed in the heart. Some family members think he did nothing wrong. Am I missing something?

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    It's time to unblock him and keep it that way! Your family is right, he did nothing wrong, all he did was got married. You beg and pleaded and he did the right by telling to have N/C. I'm assuming time has passed, he probably thought you are over the relationship, and unblocked you. Sometimes I go into my FB and unblock people because I feel that I'm fully healed and both parties have moved on.

    Why did you unblock him if you are still not over him?

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    Hi Jennifer, I dont think there is anything to read... apart from it's time to accept it, it's the past.

    If anything he's saying 'look I've moved on'.

    Time to put that chapter behind you sweets. ☺,

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    I'm going to put it nicely, I don't think he's thinking about you like that. If he's married, he's sharing it on facebook because he's happy.

    Blocking/unblocking doesn't mean much other than "I'm willing to look at this person's page."

    You aren't over him, remove him permanently from FB. Problem solved.

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    I unblocked him in a moment of weakness and I was missing him. I already knew he had moved on....he chose this girl over me even though when we were broken up he always said I just needed to say the word and he would be back with me. Well I said the word when he was less than a month into this new relationship. It was the worst pain I ever felt.

    "Blocking/Unblocking" is a way to keep people from bugging you.

    So he knew this would potentially be provocative. If he knew it might hurt me or cause trouble, why would he do that? If he didn't want to be friends, why would he do that? Would it not be better just to keep someone blocked to be kind? I have another ex that I will not ever unblock from FB because I don't want to be friends but more importantly I don't want to provoke any emotions.

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    If you were mean to him then I would say this is to reiterate to you he that he has moved on with someone who cares about him.

    As said above.. it doesn't matter. It's over, he's made it obvious.

    Time to put it behind you, block him, sorry to be harsh, but its taking too much of your mindset.. try and let it go.

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    Again, you're making it about you in a way that it might not be.

    All that matters is that he's moved on. Time for you to do that too.

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    When did you break up?

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    I was mean because of the rejection and I apologized. I already knew he had moved on. I'm still not getting why this was OK for him to make sure I knew except to be mean. He should have just kept that door closed....I didn't need to see that...it's just hurtful....and unfortunately he got a reaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JenniferN10 [Register to see the link]
    I unblocked him in a moment of weakness and I was missing him. I already knew he had moved on....he chose this girl over me even though when we were broken up he always said I just needed to say the word and he would be back with me. Well I said the word when he was less than a month into this new relationship. It was the worst pain I ever felt.

    "Blocking/Unblocking" is a way to keep people from bugging you.

    So he knew this would potentially be provocative. If he knew it might hurt me or cause trouble, why would he do that? If he didn't want to be friends, why would he do that? Would it not be better just to keep someone blocked to be kind? I have another ex that I will not ever unblock from FB because I don't want to be friends but more importantly I don't want to provoke any emotions.
    You just don't get it do you? Why would you unblock someone when you still have feelings for them? Missing someone is still feelings? Wondering whatever he's doing with his wedding photos on FB is still feelings.

    Not having feelings and okay to have an ex on FB is when you "JUST DON'T CARE" anymore. I'm happy for my exes if I see they got married and vice versa. That's how you could keep a mutual friendship with an ex, NO MORE FEELINGS and they are nothing more than a casual friend or an acquaintance.

    By the way, why don't you keep him blocked, instead of thinking, wouldn't it be kind if he keeps you blocked? You can't control what he does, you can only control yourself.

    You already know he move before he got married. So why do you think he's posting wedding pictures to get on your nerves? I posts my wedding photos on FB because I'm excited that I got married. No intentions of hurting anyone's feelings. My theory is if they don't like it than they are free to delete me.

    You have to understand, this is NOT about you! You are just taking it personally and making it all about you. Have you consider counselling to help you get over this person?

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