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    needhelp23

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    this will be complicated to explain

    Well me and this girl met on this dating app, i wasnt who i said i was at 1st (i basically catfished her) she did not know it for 2 weeks. Until she made me reveal who i was, she told me she was cool with it at 1st. She wanted to see the real me. I did not trust her at 1st, she wanted me to trust her. I told her to give it some time, then she agreed.
    For the next week or so we started to text regularly, until she wanted to see a body pic. so i gave her a body pic. Then a week later she wanted to see a face picture and so i sent it. She seemed fine with it.
    For a whole month her text seem to drastically change, she wasnt acting herself. Like she was before. Then a day later she did not bother texting me, i confronted her about it. she started to act rude and say she was busy, Then she wanted to stop talking to me. Telling me to go find someone else to talk to. So i left her alone. then a day or so later she started to text me saying she was sorry and how bad she felt. So far things havent changed like how it was supposed to.

    please read carefully. she wanted to continue talking to me even though i decieved her. So after she felt bad why did she even bother to text me?

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    OK, words of advice here:

    1) Do NOT "catfish" people on dating sites/apps, that is obnoxious, rude, and even borderline illegal in some ways. What were you trying to accomplish by doing that? Are you not good looking enough on your own that you had to do something like that? Whether it's for something serious or just sex, this is not appropriate/adult-like behavior whatsoever. Even if you don't think you look attractive enough, you shouldn't be doing that, it's VERY WRONG. I'm sure whoever images you were using would not be pleased you were using their pics on a dating app unless they gave you their approval as well.
    2) In case it wasn't clear enough, do not ever catfish someone again.
    3) I would forget about this person, because someone that was dumb enough to continue talking to someone that catfished them must be REALLY desperate. TWO weeks you posed as someone else and she was "cool" with it? Are you kidding me?
    4) You texted this person for a month~ and never went on a date or anything; what were either of your trying to accomplish?

    Dating apps; meet someone with common interest, talk/text a bit, and agree to date. When I did these apps a while ago, I wouldn't hesitate to ask a person out for coffee/lunch or something. Sounds like you are just wasting time texting someone you never met nonetheless playing games with her. I wanna add in something else; you better watch this person you are talking to isn't an undercover cop or something (yes, they are on a dating sites and they will nail you for certain things). I find it odd this person is continuing the conversations and behaving the way they are. I'd quit talking to this woman immediately; if you wanna do dating apps, post your real info/pictures, don't pretend and lure people in.

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    What's the point in pretending to be someone you're not? Both you and this girl sound as though you were just playing games and messing about with one another online.

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    Just curious why you misrepresented yourself?

    Basically this:
    Quote Originally Posted by needhelp23 [Register to see the link]
    i wasnt who i said i was at 1st (i basically catfished her) she did not know it for 2 weeks.
    Produced this:
    Quote Originally Posted by needhelp23 [Register to see the link]
    she wanted to stop talking to me. Telling me to go find someone else to talk to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wiseman2 [Register to see the link]
    Just curious why you misrepresented yourself?

    Basically this:Produced this:
    cuz i wanted to see why looks is so important

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    You two are going to go no where. Everything is based on a lie. It was over before it even started. Suck it up, leave her alone, dont catfish again.

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