Work and fun

So there's this guy i interact with at work...

He is very business like at work and I'm kind of the same.

Its all mono-tone and serious and aggressive. To the point you get a headache.

So we had quite a few occasions where we went out together with the team and had lunch or drinks.

And at lunch, he's sooo nice. Like gentle and sweet. Asks a lot of questions, gets really close, talks softly.

At work hes almost like a difficult person or a ****

You still have a crush on this guy? Yeah, dating coworker is not a great idea so he's wise to keep it congenial but professional.

Do you have a question?

It sounds like you are wondering about the differences between his work behaviour and how the casual setting behaviour has such contrast.

IMO, he prefers to compartmentalize (is that a word?) his life into boxes. Serious and focussed at work, casual in social settings.

Nothing wrong with that, most people allow the lines to blur, but it all depends on how demanding a job could be.

Reminds me of the show Grey's Anatomy where the characters are performing difficult surgery, but still having a deep conversation about their personal lives.

You've made a few threads about him now, what do you want to know? This isn't all about a co-worker, i think you like him or else you wouldn't keep asking about him.

So why not say what you really want?

Or ask him for a one on one thing and see if there's something there.

So he's a professional at work and social outside of it?????

Is his name Donald?

It's not really clear from what you've written, but if he seems *completely* different, then I would trust your gut.