Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 13

Thread: How do i catchout a liar

  1. #1
    Saddays33

    Join Date
    Jan 2017
    Posts
    2

    How do i catchout a liar

    Hi
    I have a sibling who has a marital partner who is making lies about me & my parents.
    Has been systematically trying to destroy the whole family relationship through manipulation & emotional blackmail against my sibling.
    I want to catchout my inlaw in a secretly recorded conversation where i can lightly touch on issues, knowing that they will likely relay to my sibling about what conversation actually took place with twisted lies, to try and further detatch my sibling from our family.
    Thus having evidence to pass to my sibling for a reality check....
    Any suggestions on how i converse with this evil inlaw and get them to 'trip up' so to speak

  2. #2
    Wiseman2
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    17,766
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    12963
    Is she in an abusive relationship? You need to talk to her, not her husband. Support her, butt out of their marriage.

    Stop playing detective and stirring the pot for drama.
    Quote Originally Posted by Saddays33 [Register to see the link]
    I have a sibling who has a marital partner who is making lies about me & my parents. I want to catchout my inlaw in a secretly recorded conversation where i can lightly touch on issues

  3. #3
    jennylove
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Posts
    1,088
    Thanked
    270
    That in itself is pretty manipulative. I say just let it go, sit back and watch him screw up his own shiot show.

  4. Thanks RainyCoast, zeino thanked for this post
  5. #4
    nutbrownhare
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Posts
    6,162
    Thanked
    983
    Yes, express your concerns openly and honestly to him/her, rather than being manipulative and deceitful. Otherwise you're no better than the person you want to entrap.

  6. Thanks zeino thanked for this post
  7. #5
    Saddays33

    Join Date
    Jan 2017
    Posts
    2
    Its not a he, its a she.
    I plan to purely strike up conversation with her asking if i can play peacemaker or similar not about their marriage but with them both treating his/my parents like dirt.
    I expect my offer to help will b twisted into me having threatened her or harrassed her.
    I don't want to get involved but my parents have done nothing to dessrve such treatment & they're ❤️ broken

  8. #6
    zeino
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    Location
    Istanbul
    Posts
    482
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    487
    Maybe because you haven't shared any examples or explanations but just quite harsh judgments, I kind of get the impression that your family may be a difficult itself. Your parents are adults, they can (at least in your perspective) get out of the victim mode (if they are not incapacitated in any sense) and the whole family can try to communicate openly to find out what is going on (not just from your family's perspective, but from everyone's). At the moment, from what you have written, you sound like a family everyone should be scared of. Maybe this is not the case and you are unintentionally representing the situation in a way that is unfair to your own family. Would you be interested in sharing details about how this started, what solutions you tried and what you could have done better maybe?

  9. Thanks RainyCoast thanked for this post
  10. 01-26-2017, 08:37 PM
    Reason
    Disrespectful

  11. #7
    Wiseman2
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    17,766
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    12963
    Agree, stay out of it. How old are you? What do you have against her? You sibling seems fine with her. If your family or your sibling wanted to do anything about it they would.
    Quote Originally Posted by Saddays33 [Register to see the link]
    I expect my offer to help will b twisted into me having threatened her or harrassed her.

  12. #8
    RainyCoast
    Platinum Member RainyCoast's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Location
    Europe
    Posts
    3,221
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    2288
    scary ****.

  13. Thanks Wiseman2 thanked for this post
  14. #9
    Wiseman2
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    17,766
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    12963
    What are the weird symbols? 🎤 🚶. Do you think it's a troll post?
    Quote Originally Posted by RainyCoast [Register to see the link]
    scary ****.

  15. #10
    boltnrun
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2015
    Posts
    4,402
    Thanked
    2943
    Quote Originally Posted by Wiseman2 [Register to see the link]
    What are the weird symbols? 🎤 🚶. Do you think it's a troll post?
    I think it's some kind of pic or icon or something that is disallowed on this forum.

  16.  

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Top Threads
Asking for input from estranged children
Hello. I'm hoping that I can get some input from adult children who are estranged from their parents. My youngest son is 28, and has decided that
How Helicopter Parenting has Ruined my relationship with my parents
Hey guys and gals, I just joined this forum a little while ago. I have found the forums helpful and insightful. Please feel free to offer opinions
Mother with Narcissistic Personality traits
I am looking for people who went through the same thing. I am a 28 y.o. woman and going to psychiatry education myself I discovered in the past year
My mom trying to pick clothes for me
I'm tired of my mom trying to control the clothes I wear. I don't want her picking my clothes. I'm 26. It's so embarrassing. I miss it when I used to
BF brother depressed, worse because of us.
Hello ENA! It's been a long time! I'm posting from my phone so apologies for spelling. Let me start by saying that realistically I know there isn't
Enmeshment
I am an adult female. I love my family very much. Childhood was rough because my father was an addict and adulterer. My mother would share too much

Expert Advice
Featured Threads
my boyfriend mom is my boyfriends girlfriend, thats just the way it seem!
Ive known my boyfriend for years, but, we never dated UNTIL a year ago. And some things has start to bother me about him and his mom relationship
Disconnect
This might sound weird I never brought it up to anyone. Does anyone else feel a huge disconnect. What I mean I always feel like I'm just reading a
Wife thought I shaved body hair I never had, is she cheating
I had my shirt off this morning and my wife of 23 years asked why I shaved my shoulder hair. I have never had body hair from birth on shoulders
5 years together, no reason for splitting..
Hi, thanks for taking the time to read this. Um, so. My girlfriend of 5 years (i'm 25) split with me. And i'm torturing myself over not
How do you know when it's Love?
I've been dating a man since early November. I met him through mutual friends and we spent a lot of time being friends only before we started dating
Tired of being alone
I work two jobs and go to school, I only have one night a week where I am off before 10pm and on those days I'm off at 6:00. My life is crazy but
Playing the field - When do you stop talking with other people and go exclusive?
I'm about two months into the dating scene after getting out of a four year relationship. I've matched with a number of women on Tinder and Bumble
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •