My Boyfriend Doesn't Find Me Sexually Attractive

My boyfriend and I have been together a year come February. I don't know if this is relevant, but he's actually the first person that I have been sexually active with period. He's had 4. We were friends before we became a couple, so that's why I'm so comfortable with him and vice versa. I'm 20. He's 21....Sooo...we were in bed together (just lounging around nothing intimate happening) when he pretty much just comes right out and tells me that I have no sex appeal, and that I'm cute. Now, I have not problem being called cute at all, but I asked why he wasn't attracted to me in that way and he proceeds to basically tells me that I just don't have anything that sticks out physically. Then, he goes down the line of his past partners or people that he's been interested in and told me what he liked about them (which normally I wouldn't have a problem with because we tend to be open like that). He told me that he has to really think about being turned on by me whereas with other people it just happened.

He told me that it's not about how I look, and that he loves me regardless....which I believe, but really who wants for there significant other to not find them attractive sexually. It's really just kind of starting to get to me, and I don't know how to change it...and what it made me realize is, is that we only have sex when he wants to because he really isn't attracted to me enough to be in the mood when I want to or to get himself in the mood... and I really am not sure how this is go to affect our physical relationship now that this has been brought to my attention...up until now I never suspected any of this so it was never a problem

I would have put my clothes on, got my bag, said "see ya", and walked out the door.....then started looking for a guy who is so into me that he cant keep his hands off me.....

Life is too short for this kind of crap!

This is not at all normal or okay. This seems like the beginning of an emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship. I don't understand how you could care about someone & say something like this. This is exactly how someone tries to strip someone's self esteem.

Run away from this guy!

You know there is a guy who is going to think you are absolutely beautiful. So what are you doing staying with this guy?

Don't settle for less then what you deserve which is much more then the current situation you are in.

Lisa

and what it made me realize is, is that we only have sex when he wants to

So, he finds you attractive enough to have sex with when he wants it. hmm... Ugh.

If you're happy being a FWB, then stick around. If not, walk out and keep walking. I know what I would do.

I once dated a guy that told me I wasn't beautiful when I was young.

Let's just say it didn't last, and I've dated countless dudes and married one of them that know I'm HOT.

Never put up with such a moron.