Like several out there, I've been in rough relationships where each one had provided me the utmost happiness and crushed me when things came to an end.
I have been seeing this particular man for a year. Things were hot in the beginning. From good morning/good night texts to supportive messages, staying over on weekends, and spontaneous last minute adventures, the thought of things coming to an end were unforeseeable.
Don't get me wrong, we've had our arguments, but the good times overshadowed them. As time went by 3-4 months, I've asked him, "where is this heading?" I wanted to be his girlfriend. In the beginning, he said to give him some time, he wanted a relationship with me, and to be patient. I accepted.
We continued our time together and whilst we were having the time of our lives, it slowly bothered me even more. I became impatient and asked several times again and each time, the answers were "to wait" or he would bring up things he disliked about me.
Our one year of dating was two weeks ago: December 26th and once again, I brought up the topic. He got extremely frustrated and yelled at me saying how we has been lied to in the past by exgirlfriends, how they all gave him mounds of trouble, and how his own mother cheated on his father, to which caused him lots of insecurity, trust issues, and anxiety. I started to cry. For one, I'm not his ex and to treat me like I'm going to do the same hurt me. Two, if he didn't want a relationship then he shouldn't have strung me along all this time. Three, everything he said crushed me.
The following week, New Years Eve weekend, I turned into this jealous/insecure person when I found out he messaged a girl on facebook about us meeting her at the restaurant she worked at. This girl was a person who was going to rent out a room in his Las Vegas home. He changed his mind last minute into renting out the whole house instead and flaked on her, thus, he felt that it was appropriate to meet her and apologize. What got him upset was when I asked how much he tipped her and all I got was, "since when did you start asking me how much I tip." So I was honest and told him, "well, you messaged her on facebook and I want to know how much you tipped her." That alone caused more turmoil to our New Years weekend.
We had a long drive coming back to California and not a conversation was exchanged between us. When we got to his house I said bye and went home. It's been 4 days with no contact and I texted him, "Hi, how are you." His reply, "I'm not going out with any girls. I just want to be alone right now." I texted him, "Okay, I hope all is well with everything else."
Anyone know what this means? Does this mean that he wants to further contact from me and is sort of like a "break up" thing, even though we weren't officially together? Should I still contact him time to time? Should I even think there's a gleam of hope for us?
I've been hurting these past 2 weeks and I found myself yet again, moping and crying. Just like before, back to square one.
If you all want the other small deets we are/have a
- 6 year gap. 23/29(him)
- we have not had sex (he says he only has sex with someone if they're bound to be girlfriend worthy. I accepted to be patient.)
- Our pictures are still on his facebook page
- I work in the healthcare field (hence the sensitivity to emotions) & he is in the business field.
** Your thoughts are all appreciated. I'd love to hear insight from men as well. Although my 2017 started off with a major heartache, I hope you all started yours off well!**