I was wondering if you guys could help me out here. This girl I was seeing for a few months just broke up with me last night. But it seems like her reason was so strange, I was hoping you could help me make some sense out of this.
She's 22 (I'm 37) and she's young and really pretty. Great body. Fun Personality, very caring. Things were going great, but there were some odd things about her. For one she was very promiscuous.. she's had like 23 (admitted) sex partners and she's only 22. She has had a threesome with two guys. I just wrote this off as crazy things kids do these days. At the time she did that, she was 18 and she told me that some guy she was into suggested a threesome, and she got so angry that she had the threesome with two other guys to get back at him. I thought this was worrisome, but I figured hey we all do stupid things when we're young right? But I couldn't help but think she might have some kind of personality or mood disorder.
So anyway.. things went great between me and this girl. I spent Christmas with her and her family. We became very close, we were together almost all the time. She seemed insecure though.. at one point she demanded to look through my iphone and laptop. I refused.. she said she couldn't trust me. So I deleted all the offending files and let her go through my things. She was satisfied, and thing were ok for a while.
Now two days ago she came over and wanted to clean my room. So i told her ok sure. I figured any really bad things such as compromising pictures with old exes were already gone. But she found a bunch of some of my old porn dvd's and demanded I throw them out. I told her nah, I'll just put them in a box and leave them in the basement. She seemed upset, but I didn't think it was that bad. She left later that night without saying bye. I knew she was upset, but i figured hey it's not fair for someone to come to my house and just order me to throw out my personal property, no matter how offensive or disgusting they might think it is. Now I don't even watch those dvd's, as they're all online anyway, but still. I didn't really want to throw everything out at that moment.
So.. the next day i don't hear from her at all. I knew something was really wrong. But i didn't message her, i figured i'd let her calm down. But at 7pm that night, she calls me. She tells me she is breaking up with me because I refused to throw out the dvd's. I was stunned. But she was serious. She was crying, telling me how she can't believe that I would choose to keep old porn dvd's around and upset her. She basically claimed I chose the porn dvd's over her.
I was shocked, and still am. I messaged her last night, and no response. I messaged her again today thinking a good night's sleep might calm her down.. but again i've gotten no response.
So ya.. just to add a couple of things: she hasn't had a relationship in four years, since she was 18. I find this highly suspicious as well. Also, when she broke up with me she was saying that me and her are different and we can't be together and that she's crying because she realized that. What the hell is going on here?
What is your take on this? Was I out of line? Is she right or is she crazy?