Recently, I have been feeling that I have outgrown the city in which I currently live. Right now I live in Qingdao, China. To be honest, this city doesnít have too much to entertain me. The expat social scene is either deadly quiet (think old farts sitting around talking smack about everything), or too wild (think african college students living their binge drinking fantasies). In nearly two years of living here, besides my roommate and my boyfriend, I havenít found a social group here. Chinese or foreign. It hasnít worked out. I can count on my hand the number of women without children in their late 20's, early 30's that live close enough to maintain a friendship- and I haven't clicked with any of them.
I also work for a company that really doesnít pay me what I could be making elsewhere. The issue is that the highest paying gigs around here (for those in education) are for traditional classroom teachers in international school. I do not want to do that. I prefer working with teens who want to study abroad- helping them with standardised tests and college applications. If I do that job around here, I will make about the same as I do now- and be committed to a new job for another year in a city I donít enjoy.
The issue is that my boyfriend will be enrolled in University for about 7 more months in this city. Now, heís doing an internship, and self study course that allows him a lot of free time. But still, if I leave, I will see him a lot less. Currently we live together. We are madly in love, its kind of gross... haha.
I have the opportunity to move to a bigger city, such as Shanghai. Which would allow me to find more enjoyable work, give me access to more diverse cultural events, surround me with more like-minded people...etc. But I would have to live away from my boyfriend, and I would be living in a much more expensive city.... which could hurt my savings if I am not careful.
In the past, I havenít been the best saver. What I have put away right now is the most Iíve ever had, but perhaps Iíve grown up enough not to squander it.
I also have a history of moving every 2 years. I lived in New York City for 2 years, then Osaka, Japan for 2 years, now Qingdao... I am not sure if this pattern is good, bad, or neutral...
Pros of moving:
Potential for higher income job
More interesting social life
More international city
Easier travel to other places (flights from SH are cheaper)
Cons of moving:
Another big change
Partially long distance (boyfriend has agreed to visit for a week out of every month)
Shanghai is expensive, easy to overspend!
What do you think? Is it worth the risk, or should I wait for my boyfriend to finish school and decide what to do from there?
The thought of moving is very exciting, but also a little scary. My gut says do it, but I am not sure.
I put my resume on a jobs site and have been getting people emailing me- so I think I could definitely find somewhere if I put my mind to it.