My 20 year old boyfriend all of a sudden doesn't want to have sex

I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 20. We first met on social media, and then met up. Before we met we did sext. Mostly me doing all the talking because he was shy.

When we first met up and began dating, the sex was great. He did all of a sudden not want to sext anymore if we were apart for a few days, but i didn't mind.

Now, almost 2 years into dating, whenever i inititate anything in person, he's not interested. He still continues to tease me however, but when i want to take it further, he's 'not in the mood'.

A few nights ago for example, i 'took care of him' but when it came to me, he was 'feeling weird'. The next morning when i asked him why he let me do stuff to him if he wasn't in the mood, he said 'because i thought you wanted to do it, so i let you'.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I've asked him countless times if anything is wrong, and he won't communicate with me. I'm not saying sex is everything, but it's getting really difficult when it's been months without anything.

He also watches porn when he's at home and i'm not around. So i'm not sure what that could mean?

Sorry if this was long! Any help would be appreciated. Have no one else to ask!

How long has this been going on?

Do you live together? How is the rest of the relationship? Stop approaching him and servicing him. Pull back and aim for mutual sexual involvement and satisfaction.

Do you think he's cheating?

I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 20.whenever i inititate anything in person, he's not interested. i 'took care of him' but when it came to me, he was 'feeling weird'. he said 'because i thought you wanted to do it, so i let you'.

you came to the right place. lots of experienced people on here. it seems like he might have an issue with self esteem, depression, anxiety or a combination. when he won't communicate back that says he either is too embarrassed to discuss it or doesn't know what's going on inside his head.

personal experience, when I had problems with my family, I typically won't initiate sex with my gf. he might also have porn addiction since you mentioned he watches a lot when you're not around. ask if there's a particular fantasy he would like to try? to spice things up sort of..not saying you should do whatever he wants, but just to see if he is even thinking of such things to try with you.

Porn addiction is a big problem these days.

How long has this been going on?

A few months. Would probably say about 3 months. Before that it was ordinary. Obviously there were times when either one of us was too tired, but it wasn't a constant thing.

Thanks for replying

We don't live together, but he stays at mine maybe 3-4 times a week. The rest of the relationship i'm not so sure about. We've had our issues in the past mostly concerning sometimes for a period of time he won't visit me for weeks, but then it goes back to normal.

I wouldn't say he's cheating. But then again, i'm not so sure.

Thanks for your reply though

This indicates that he's in and out of your life? Are you sure this is a relationship or more of a fwb or on/off type thing?

Where does he go when he disappears for weeks? Why do you never stay at his place? Is he married?

he stays at mine maybe 3-4 times a week. sometimes for a period of time he won't visit me for weeks, but then it goes back to normal. I wouldn't say he's cheating.

This indicates that he's in and out of your life? Are you sure this is a relationship or more of a fwb or on/off type thing?

 

Where does he go when he disappears for weeks? Why do you never stay at his place? Is he married?

We both stay with our parents. I visit his house, but i never stay. Reason being because his room is really small, with a really small single bed.

It does sometimes feel like he's in and out of my life a lot. Whenever i bring stuff like this up with him, he has a talent of making me think it's me that's being unreasonable. If that makes sense

Maybe that's why sex is awkward? It sounds like just thinks of it as occasional hookups not a real relationship. Why don't you date better quality guys who act and are interested in you not just coming to your parents house for you to perform bjs?

We both stay with our parents. It does sometimes feel like he's in and out of my life a lot.

He's tapping one of your friends or an old girlfriend and feels bad about it