Such thing as getting back together too soon?

When my cousin broke up with partner, she was told by her father not to accept back the other person straight away should they come back. Likewise, in another situation, another cousin broke up with her now husband for a year before getting back together. In both of these situations, the relationship seemed to move forward because everyone involved separated for a long time.

In contrast, there are many relationships where breaking up often produce feelings of regret quite quickly (Within 3 months). That can be a perfectly normal reaction to the ending of a relationship even if it wasn't the healthiest one. So in these circumstances, does it seem like it is a bad idea to get back together too soon?

There are loads of different examples out there. For example people who get back together within one week after break up and are married happily for the next 30 years.

I just wonder if there are any statistics towards this sort of thing. What are people's gut feelings about this sort of thing? Can there ever be a situation where it's too soon?

It just seems unfortunate if someone did want to get back together, but feels that it's probably too soon, will probably lose the opportunity to reconcile successfully.

Getting back because you miss them and want to ease pain, will not resolve the original conflicts. Getting back together because you realize the good outweighs the bad, after careful reflection is a better shot. It takes two to reconcile but only one to end it..

Entering an on/off relationship is also a risk if people run back because they are lonely, horny, whatever but never resolve the issues. Also what is a break-up? a couple days cooling of because of a fight? that's not really breaking up.

Also people who break-up or threaten to constantly are infantile and have power/control issues.

For example people who get back together within one week after break up and are married happily for the next 30 years.

The bottom line is that there is absolutely zero sense in getting back with someone that hasn't changed the very things that caused the break up in the first place. Three months is not enough time to get over and never return to some bad habits, addictions or ingrained upbringing.

Too soon? Maybe the question you should be asking is, should you get back together at all? The same problems will likely be there. We call them breakups because they are broken.

Really good relationships don't have breakups.