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    JJ's Diary of Dating

    Figured I'd give the diary thing a go. Knowing that I can always move this to the private diary forum if need be, hehe.

    More to come soon...

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    Very recently, a girl we'll call "D" reached out to me over eHarmony. I could immediately tell in our early communications (the 5 questions, makes/breaks, deeper questions, and initial email from her) that she's special. Or least, different (trying not to romanticize things too much too soon, I sometimes do that). She's been traveling, but still found the time to text me and call me, which I thought was really nice. We've spoken on the phone a few times, and we (strangely) live super close to each other. We also seem to have a ton of other things in common. Which both excites and kinda scares me. Only because I'm so used to disappointment, at least as far as the last 3.5 years are concerned.

    We will see. I am trying to be cautiously optimistic, but also real. I don't want to make anything seem really good when it might not be. That's what I did with my 5 year relationship and I won't do that again.

    A little tidbit - thanks for the online dating world, I have found some things out about the girl who left me after 5 years. All I can say is thank God we're not together....

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    Ok, I'll bite. What exactly did you find out?

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    Ok, I'll bite. What exactly did you find out?
    Actually, it's really not anything in particular. It just confirmed, in my mind, that we weren't a match. If her profile and responses to various questions are any indicator, she's just very different from who I once thought she was. If we got married, it would have ended in divorce. To me, she is cold, arrogant and unromantic (among other things). She changed very much from how she was when I first met her and even said this at the end. Now I believe it.

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    Sexy John John made a dating journal? Hell yeah, count me in.

    Glad you dodged that bullet of not marrying your ex. It scares me when people change so completely like that.

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    Originally Posted by John John
    reached out to me over eHarmony.
    These Americanisms amuse me. "Reached out" = contacted.

    I remember years ago when the yanks started this whole "solutions" thing - a chair became a "seating solution", a plate became an "eating solution".

    Haha I love it.

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    When is D coming back from her trip?

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    Originally Posted by WithLove
    Sexy John John made a dating journal? Hell yeah, count me in.

    Glad you dodged that bullet of not marrying your ex. It scares me when people change so completely like that.
    LOL thanks WithLove 8) And I agree. I REALLY dodged a bullet. Even though I don't "know" her anymore, I still know her enough to realize that her profile is accurate. She is underhandedly mean, condescending, thinks she's better than others, and just not nearly as loyal as I am. As painful at it was...I actually feel really sorry for her next serious bf.

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    When is D coming back from her trip?
    She got back yesterday. We spoke on the phone for an hour (our second convo). And she JUST texted me a little while ago to tell me that she was laughing to herself today when she thought of my laugh over the phone last night

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    [QUOTE=John John;6608515]She got back yesterday. We spoke on the phone for an hour (our second convo). And she JUST texted me a little while ago to tell me that she was laughing to herself today when she thought of my laugh over the phone last night

    Have you asked her to meet?

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    Originally Posted by missmarple
    Have you asked her to meet?
    Yes. We are on for either Friday evening or Saturday during the day (she's arranging her plans and will get back to me). I let her know that Friday is better for me, but willing to make Saturday work as well. This was when we spoke on the phone last night. I know she'll get back to me

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