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    She hates me now because I called the cops on her.

    So I guess my ex-girlfriend, who (used) live with me. Hates me because I called the cops on her, was I wrong?

    The reason I called the cops:
    So we're in the car, we were arguing, and it escalated in to intense yelling., then she grabbed my arm. And I told her to let go. (Because I was trying to walk away from the situation) but she didn't, so I threaten to call the cops, then she starts hitting me because she panicked. And then she threw her food at me then left.
    Later she comes in my room, screaming at me saying "your lucky I dont break your face"
    !" And then she was like, " you may not know what to do with your life, but I have opportunities! " and "she goes on about are you gonna take me to work on monday?"
    Of course man, like I'm scared already, and I didn't wanna answer her. So I tried to walk away from her again. But this time she blocks the door. And she kept repeating the question. So I had to "move" her. (Picked her up and move her out of my way) then she follows me to the backyard. But I close the door behind me , so I could get away from her. But then she wedges her foot and fingers thru the door. Now I applied just enough force to not harm her. But I guess I was wrong. Because her toe was bleeding. I felt so bad. And there was so much blood. And she's screaming I HATE YOU I HATE YOU, DON'T ING HELP ME. and then after she got cleanew up and she goes back to my room and she starts beating on me and shoving me, I didn't do anything back. But the way she looked at me, really scares me. She looked at me like she didn't know me any more.

    The next day, she called me, saying "did you think that was ok ?" And told her yeah and then she hang up.

    So was I in the wrong to call the cops ? I really care for this girl, and I didn't mean for this to happen. Do u think me and her can at least be friends?

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    I'm going to catch heat for this and be labeled a pig most likely, but hell NO you were not wrong to call the cops.

    This situation has me particularly heated because I had to do the same thing with my ex a year ago while we were still together. She was verbally harassing me about something that I had nothing to do with - at ONE in the morning, not letting me sleep, just drunkenly having a good go at me. I asked her to let me sleep. She wouldn't. I told her I would go home to my place and sleep. She wouldn't stop. So I got up, got my clothes on and tried to leave. She blocked the door, and I didn't lay a hand on her because a woman could tell a cop that and YOU would be in jail. So I psyched her out and made it out of there. So she follows me outside and as I open my car door, she jumps in my driver's seat saying "You're not going anywhere." I threatened to call the cops, she said "Go ahead, I'll tell them you're drunk." Didn't move. So I called her bluff. The cops came, MADE her go back in her house. She told them I was drunk and they laughed at her.

    I caught flak from people for that - my friends, her friends - because I'm a guy she's a female and she was drunk and emotional *whatever*, but I swear that's such a double standard. I don't care if she's a female, if she is hitting you, blocking the doorway, threatening you etc., it is DARN WELL within your rights as a human being to call the police on her. I don't care that you're a man and she's a woman. Not only that, but you WARNED her and she overstepped that boundary.

    Why do you want to be friends with that?!? With friends like that, who needs enemies? Drop her like a hot potato. What did the cops say?

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    No way, what if she attacks you again.

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    No, you were not wrong. Anytime someone becomes physical with you, you are well within your rights to call the police.

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    She sounds kinda psycho. I don't think this will be the last episode of violence leading to cops and possibly arrests. She may even invent a scene then call cops and turn it around so that You are arrested. This chick is a time bomb. I think no contact...maybe even restraining order would be best.

    This part of the post amazes me most 6556508]I really care for this girl.Do u think me and her can at least be friends?[/QUOTE]

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    You were definitely not wrong. She needs some big time time out where someone can keep her supervised.

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    You did the right thing, (imo).

    Is she still living with you and your parents. If so, are they aware of this?

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    Originally Posted by pandaofspdez
    So I guess my ex-girlfriend, who (used) live with me. Hates me because I called the cops on her, was I wrong?

    The reason I called the cops:
    So we're in the car, we were arguing, and it escalated in to intense yelling., then she grabbed my arm. And I told her to let go. (Because I was trying to walk away from the situation) but she didn't, so I threaten to call the cops, then she starts hitting me because she panicked. And then she threw her food at me then left.
    Later she comes in my room, screaming at me saying "your lucky I dont break your face"
    !" And then she was like, " you may not know what to do with your life, but I have opportunities! " and "she goes on about are you gonna take me to work on monday?"
    Of course man, like I'm scared already, and I didn't wanna answer her. So I tried to walk away from her again. But this time she blocks the door. And she kept repeating the question. So I had to "move" her. (Picked her up and move her out of my way) then she follows me to the backyard. But I close the door behind me , so I could get away from her. But then she wedges her foot and fingers thru the door. Now I applied just enough force to not harm her. But I guess I was wrong. Because her toe was bleeding. I felt so bad. And there was so much blood. And she's screaming I HATE YOU I HATE YOU, DON'T ING HELP ME. and then after she got cleanew up and she goes back to my room and she starts beating on me and shoving me, I didn't do anything back. But the way she looked at me, really scares me. She looked at me like she didn't know me any more.

    The next day, she called me, saying "did you think that was ok ?" And told her yeah and then she hang up.

    So was I in the wrong to call the cops ? I really care for this girl, and I didn't mean for this to happen. Do u think me and her can at least be friends?
    I'm sorry but where in there did you actually call the cops? You ask if you were wrong to but in your telling, you don't mention having called them on her. So, during all that, when did you call them and was she charged with anything?

    From what you've explained, I think you're both wrong. Anyway, have you broken up? I sure hope so... and no, you can't be friends.

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    She's a psycho, why do you want to be friends with a psycho? There's lots of nice people in this world, you dont need loonies in your part of it.

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    You were absolutely NOT wrong for calling the cops! Just because she is a female, doesn't mean she has a right to hit you. Period. I've seen way too many guys suffer their girlfriends/wives smacked them, and they just sit there and take it. I'm not condoning violence; I would never do that. You were completely right to call the police and get it handled.

    As for everything else, I suggest you leave it be. I know exactly how you're feeling. They've physically hurt you, put you at your emotional wit's end, but you still care about them. At that point, that emotion can only be used against you. If she's as unstable as she seems, I promise you, she may come back to pester you in some manner. Most likely to come at you as aggressively as she has in the past. At that point, you need to avoid her, don't answer her calls, don't answer the door, call the police if she doesn't take a hint and leave you be. If someone wants to hurt you, they will hurt you no matter who they are. If she's mad enough and she doesn't come back, know that it's for the best.

    If none of this convinces you, think of this. I stayed with my significant other for four years, caring about him and trying to avoid anything that made him mad. People told me to leave, I didn't. The violence only got worse, and I barely got away from him to type this comment. It scares me when I hear about people in these situations. Ask yourself these question: is she capable of worse? Will I still care about her if it does? Will I be happy if this is the nature of the rest of my life?

    You deserve better. Way better. Stay away from her, and keep her away from you. For the sake of everyone that cares about you.

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