Alone, broke, in debt and hopeless

I never wanted my life to be like this - after I broke up (mutual decision) due to a lot of unbearable conflicts I moved into a different appartment, started my new job, everything seemed to be fine, went on a few dates (nothing really serious, though, I need time for myself)... But then, at one point, about a month ago - life started to slide into some weird direction - I have become increasingly financially broke, literally. In order to survive I had to loan money, then at the same time I need to pay for a car I accidently damaged while driving in a parking lot. Basically I only have enough money for food. My boss promised to pay me a bonus after I came back from a trip to another country (I'm a highly experienced advertising specialist), not only he did not pay me, he even paid me less salary than previously and did not even paid for my transportation which is quite expensive (it's an aggreement that they cover my transportation costs), it feels like I'm sliding deeper and deeper into poverty and I have no options now what to do.

I have not been on any dates for a month now - I'm not even contacting any of the girls I've met and I'm not even looking for any new ones since I don't even have money for buying new clothes or going to a restaurant. I have not been on any party for weeks, because I don't have any money. I've spend 70% of this whole weekend sleeping and walking around a bit, because I don't have any money. Although I work quite hard and sometimes about 60 hours a week or more - I don't get paid, it only covers my food and appartment.

I have no clue what to do. I even caught myself crying yesterday and being completely depressed.

I even have this thought in my head that I will never get married, never have any children, live in poverty and work myself to death while getting paid just to sleep and eat. I cannot imagine myself establishing any kind of relationship now, neither I have a car, neither I can buy a ticket for a festival I desperately want to go to. Why is this happening to me?

How old are you?

Have you started looking for a new job? Because the one you have sounds like a bad situation.

1) If you're operating under spoken, unrecorded agreements rather than detailed contracts, stop.

2) If your boss is violating the terms of your contract, seek out a labor lawyer. Many offer free consultations.

You're just in a funk right now. A low.

it happens to all of us. We see everything as so far out of reach and think.. this is NOT How I saw my Life ending up!

No.. life doesn't really ever end up as 'planned'. Things can change in an instant.

Many of are no good with change either... but wr have no choice but to continue on....

You cannot see yoruself having another relationship? But you have no idea. You most likely will again... but at this time, no, you dont see or feel it. I understand.

At this time, for me I dont want one! I have been thru numerous relations thru the last 25 yrs.. it has taken it's toll. Time for me to just take care of ME now.

I am in NO rush to get into anything with anyone. I know I NEED some serious down time now. To work on accepting & recovering from another 'loss', which occured just over 2 months ago.

Things will happen n our Life.. or they won't. I try not to have my 'expectations' too high anymore. Therefore I won't feel let down as much.

But, for the next few months I it will just be me and I'm going to be okay....

If you are not being paid what you are owed or reimbursed what you are owed, that's the thing you need to address. Whether speaking to your boss or to a lawyer. Franklym when companies are not paying what they promised all of a sudden, that's your clue that they are in financial trouble themselves.

So, since you are experienced, start seeking another job now. One that actually pays what you are worth. Don't wait around until your boss tells you they are shutting down. Have something else lined up and go. Also, consider moonlighting on the side - lots of good consulting work you can do that can even grow into a full time business for you. You are in a good field and with experience and capacity to deliver....no reason for you to be starving. Just focus, make a plan, start going after what you want. You can do advertising for others, so put your mind to work on how to advertise yourself and your services. Just do it.

Basically, sh$t happens and in your case it's fixable. Nothing is going to change with your financial situation unless you start taking active steps to change it.

My boss promised to pay me a bonus after I came back from a trip to another country (I'm a highly experienced advertising specialist), not only he did not pay me, he even paid me less salary than previously and did not even paid for my transportation which is quite expensive (it's an aggreement that they cover my transportation costs),

Have you contacted your labor board with this complaint?

Get your financial situation sorted first, before even thinking about women/dating.

As an experienced ad specialist, the market is hot for you. Ditch that crappy job with the unethical, tightwad boss (but not before you have another one). Girls are the least of your problems right now. Get the better job, then you have more money which equals less stress and depression - THEN start dating again.

You will be okay - your boss really s*rewed you over and was dishonest, leaving you in a vulnerable financial situation.

I don't get paid, it only covers my food and appartment

You ARE getting paid - its just now your expenses are bigger having your own place instead of sharing. So the first thing I would ask is if you could find a cheaper place or take in a roommate. I would NOT date right now. Get past some of the healing and get your life stable. Your boss does not owe you bonuses. But I would start putting my resume out there for a different job. But in the meantime, see if you can trim expenses by cooking instead of eating out and maybe finding a cheaper living situation. What about getting a part time job on the weekends?

Thanks for your replies, I'm 30.

I have an update - I wonder what this thing is that stands behind it all, but after my first post here I've met someone great, so basically I ain't got no need to be worried about the relationship and dating thing anymore,

BUT the job thing has got even worse - my boss just told me that he's got trouble with our local IRS, so basically I'm fired and will only have work for like a day or two a week. Luckily I do have another option that I can work with a relative also once or twice a week. Then I'll get at least some cash for being in a commercial (not much though).

Today I got the thinking that these things might be happening to me because I've spent too few hours the past few years to make my own bussiness or turn the ideas I have into profit, now I'm forced to act.

abitbroken - This is already the cheapest place where I can reside, It's quite a crappy appartment, but a fun community, we're 6 people in this appartment in the very center of our city.

Misskitty16 - In our country taxes ruin a lot of start-ups, this system sucks so much that basically 80% of small companies get in trouble with the authorities, so he was not telling me that this was the problem and not some other reason not to pay me.

Mr_LFA - Apparently it seems like women show up when the time is right, fell from the sky in front of me (not literally though), I'm in spring mode right now.

DancingFool - I think I should go with finally doing something on my own, rather than be dependant on others, I've been screwed in many places in my past, so I guess it's time.

Do you mean she can help you financially?

I've met someone great, so basically I ain't got no need to be worried about the relationship and dating thing anymore.Apparently it seems like women show up when the time is right, fell from the sky in front of me

Do you mean she can help you financially?

I've just met her, got no clue if it will lead to something, we'll see. It would be quite dumb of me to ask for something.